Say that amongst a crowd of women, a guy walks up to one woman and asks her out, without realizing that they've already met before (a few months ago). If that woman remembers him from before, should she reject him? It's like, she's obviously more special than the other women in the room, but the fact that he forgot that he met her before is a red flag, right?
The human brain is interesting and complex. Maybe the reason she stood out to him is because they had met before. However he doesn’t distinctly recall the occasion because she was clearly not memorable. Yet she remembered him. He has the advantage. She probably shouldn’t accept the offer because they are not on the same level and that will lead to resentment. If she’s thinking this way, it already has created resentment. Resentment destroys relationships.
I´d say yes because forgetting that he has met her before doesn´t seem like a huge deal to me. Especially if we´re talking about a person that has many meetings with either men or women. If he´s a guy that has many meetings I wouldn´t assume he did it intentionally.
I would only reject him if there were obvious signs that he intentionally overlooked her before and now pursues her showing that he has no genuine intentions.
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It depends on where they met. I met my future ex-fiance at a bar where I was talked into playing with some band from New Orleans that doesn't have a drummer. The lights were a bit dim and they had blacklights on so, that changed her appearance, slightly. We got on quite well together the next hour or two that we chatted but, when it came time for me to leave, we both figured we'd never see each other again.
A week later, I was putting an application in at a drug store in the afternoon and some girl was standing at the door waiting for a bus and said, "It's you! Hi!!". I had NO idea who she was I just knew that she seemed to be interested in meeting and talking to me! So, I went inside, handed in my application and went back out to see if she was still there. She was. We started talking, she mentioned that we met the week before at that bar and that's when I remembered who she was! The change of venue and the lighting kept me from knowing who she was when we bumped into each other again!
We started seeing each other about 3 weeks later and were together for the next 10 years and almost got married and had a kid together!!
My not remembering who she was had nothing to do with how well we went with each other!! Give the guy a chance!!
Have you ever forgotten something? anything? At the time the person who told it to you or showed it to you thought it to be important enough to tell you or show you. But because you were not completely focused on that you forgot. It happens sometimes... Yes you remembered and think if it was important enough for you to remember then it was important enough for him to remember too. However you do not know where is mind was at the time of your first meeting or what might have happened in his life just prior to that first meeting. Are you really going to throw away an opportunity to get to know him and see if he is really that forgetful?
I'm terrible with names and even faces. I might not remember someone if I merely met them once. It takes me a while. We would have had to have done something memorable together, at least chatted for a while.
Yes, the guy is either a dumbass or a lair, both ways if he cannot remember from a few months back he is not worth it. Tell him I would have gone on a date with you, but I have already forgotten that you asked me.
I don’t remember what you say a week ago unless I log it to remember. Yeah, “he’s so attentive” and by default you feel/are so vey glow special😎
Yeah, seek either Perfection or justification for not risking and ultimately avoiding some form of rejection.
No you shouldn’t reject a guy because you met him months ago and doesn’t remember.
what were you doing months ago? When you met him were you at a party?
How long was the interaction? 5-10 minutes an hour? He’s not gonna remember that. Guys mind will remember if it important at the time, If it’s Radom people hanging out for 1 days and the guy doesn’t see the new people in the group form months they’re not gonna remember. It’s nothing against you it’s just how our minds work.
Was that last encounter a bit embarrassing? I might pretend that the last conversation hadn’t happened if I wanted us both to forget about it. Sometimes, you just need a reboot.
Why be so picky? He's asking you out because he finds you interesting. I'm sure you and he have met lots of people before that you and he don't remember. Enjoy the date.
Need more info on the first meeting. It all depends on what happened in the first meeting. Was was the scenario? If it was a casual friendly meeting among other people or just some official meeting, chances are higher for someone to forget they met you.
You Girls keep focusing on reasons to Reject Guys instead of focusing on Reasons to date them, You will end up being much Happier if you focus on the good qualities to date a Guy.
Yes she should and tell him we met before
Why didn’t she say anything…?
He might have a load of shit going on
Bethany it could be a red flag. It means the guy is trying to just about date anybody or maybe he is just looking for sex?
Depends on how you feel about him. I suppose if he can’t help it if he legitimately forgot. Lol. But it’s up to you to go out or not.
Some people have a strong memory for faces. Some don't.
I don't think so. If he was interested, he'd really remember otherwise she's just some girl.
Yes. It's been a few months. You don't remember everyone you meet. Why would you discount someone just because they didn't remember you from one encounter from months ago?
If a girl didn't remember me I wouldn't go out on a date.
What's your reasoning, other than you didn't make enough of an impression on him, or maybe he was pre-occupied, or even high?
I don't remember everyone I meet so it's unfair for me to judge someone based on that.
It really depends on the girl. , if she still likes him then yes.
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