Should I stop talking to him for speaking sexually too soon?

[Anonymous]

I approached this guy first on fb. This was probably last weekend. I thought he was cute but not I fear he doesn’t really have interest in getting to know me. The conversation just got to a sexual point we’ve only been texting for a week. I don't know if I should continue to text him. I don’t only want to have sex I want a connection. How do I know he is going to give me that if this is what he is saying. This is the first moment he directly went to sex but I’m and adult and I know adults have sex and I am attracted to him but I’m intentionally dating so if that’s all he wants I don’t want him. Should I bother responding?

[Anonymous]

It's important to prioritize your own comfort and boundaries in any relationship, including when it comes to conversations about sex. If the conversation has turned sexual too soon for your comfort, it's okay to communicate that and to set boundaries that feel comfortable for you.

If you're looking for a deeper connection and relationship, it's important to communicate that to the other person and to see if they're on the same page. If he's only interested in a sexual relationship and that's not what you're looking for, it may be best to move on and focus on finding someone who shares your values and priorities.

Remember that it's okay to take things at your own pace and to prioritize your own well-being and emotional health in any relationship. If you continue to feel uncomfortable or unsure about the situation, it may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or therapist about your feelings and concerns.

[Guy13]

Go with your instinct and back off. See if he continues to text. Anything sexual in nature then one word response or no response. No response or I don't understand everytime and he will get the message.

See if he changes the subject or if he opens up different areas so that you two will continue to speak.

[BrookeAZ90]

Given that you haven't met him yet, this would be kinda worrying. I'd maybe not totally give up on it yet, but if you do decide to actually meet him somewhere, I'd make sure it's very public and have an escape plan if it goes the way you think it might. And just be looking out for how much he brings sex up the first time you meet rather than getting to know you better and you can decide if you two have the same intentions or not.

[Asker]

Okay I’ll try and see if he plans a date or not then that’ll steer my decision. He lives like 2 hours away so I’m trying make sure he knows it’s something to work towards

[BradBoy]

You've told us what you want, but have you told him? I'd make it crystal clear to him and see what he says.

[jjj101010]

I guess it’s a part of dating

[Asker]

So I should still give it a chance?

[jjj101010]

Yeah. I mean, if u won’t have sex with him don’t bother. It’s obviously something important to him