Long story short, I have a bit of a crush on a girl at work.
To sum up the story as concisely and quickly as possible
1. I didn't start developing a crush on her until several months of work and seeing her personality from a distance
2. She would at times approach me randomly saying silly things like "Do you wanna do my job for me?" Before I EVER developed any sort of crush on me.
3. After developing a crush, I started approaching her occasionally. We should have short little conversations about work or life.
4. After a couple months of occasionally approaching her and having little talks (Where she often made up 80%+ of the talking). I decided to buy her a little stuffed animal. She told me she loved it, and thought it was adorable. She seemed excited about it, and her love for her seemed quite real.
5. Couple weeks after this I asked if she would want to get coffee on break or something. She told me she was likely going to be too busy, and all weeks as well (ended up being true).
6. When she turned down my coffee invite, I admitted to her I had developed somewhat of a crush on her. She told me she didn't even realize it, and thought I was just being nice (even with the gift), and that she was terrible at interpreting these things. She told me she was VERY HONORED about it, but was currently seeing someone.
7. Due to depression, embarrassment, shyness, and the bad advice from a female coworker (Who I found out liked me, and is a bit of a creep). I stopped talking to the girl I have a crush on. I would do anything to avoid being around her, and wouldn't even look at her when we passed.
8. Due to this, we just stopped talking all together for about 2 months.. It was a poor decision. I would do anything during that period to avoid her, even avoiding eye contact. Naturally we just stopped talking.
9. I stared approaching her again recently and we talk once in a while. She is as nice as ever, and still makes up the majority of speaking in our convos
To sum up the story as concisely and quickly as possible
1. I didn't start developing a crush on her until several months of work and seeing her personality from a distance
2. She would at times approach me randomly saying silly things like "Do you wanna do my job for me?" Before I EVER developed any sort of crush on me.
3. After developing a crush, I started approaching her occasionally. We should have short little conversations about work or life.
4. After a couple months of occasionally approaching her and having little talks (Where she often made up 80%+ of the talking). I decided to buy her a little stuffed animal. She told me she loved it, and thought it was adorable. She seemed excited about it, and her love for her seemed quite real.
5. Couple weeks after this I asked if she would want to get coffee on break or something. She told me she was likely going to be too busy, and all weeks as well (ended up being true).
6. When she turned down my coffee invite, I admitted to her I had developed somewhat of a crush on her. She told me she didn't even realize it, and thought I was just being nice (even with the gift), and that she was terrible at interpreting these things. She told me she was VERY HONORED about it, but was currently seeing someone.
7. Due to depression, embarrassment, shyness, and the bad advice from a female coworker (Who I found out liked me, and is a bit of a creep). I stopped talking to the girl I have a crush on. I would do anything to avoid being around her, and wouldn't even look at her when we passed.
8. Due to this, we just stopped talking all together for about 2 months.. It was a poor decision. I would do anything during that period to avoid her, even avoiding eye contact. Naturally we just stopped talking.
9. I stared approaching her again recently and we talk once in a while. She is as nice as ever, and still makes up the majority of speaking in our convos
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10. Due to this, and work closing for the summer. I want to approach her, Ask what her plans are for the summer, and then explain to her I want to use this summer as a way to build up myself (both emotionally and mentally). I want to explain to her I was distant because I have been struggling with depression/insecurity etc... and want to use this summer as a reset to come back stronger
Is this a good idea?
Is this a good idea?
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PS, I don’t necessarily expect her to want me, or date me.
I mainly want to end on a good note, and if that means only friends, that is okay with me. If you need more details, let me know.
I mainly want to end on a good note, and if that means only friends, that is okay with me. If you need more details, let me know.
