Should I respond to her?

[Anonymous]

I started casually seeing this girl from a dating app, I made it very clear I wasn’t looking for anything serious and we agreed to just hang out, watch movies and hook up. We agreed to let each other know if we slept with someone else. After a few times, I found out that it wasn’t going to work out, she has severe depression and was looking for more from me. She had told me about some of the guys she was talking to, and when she asked me about the people I was talking to, she got upset and asked why I would be talking to someone else and if we should stop.

This was all too much for me, this wasn’t a healthy relationship for either of us and I began to distance myself and eventually told her that I didn’t think I could continue this, for a lot of personal reasons. She said ok, I said I was sorry and that was that.

Today, she texted me asking if she should delete the list of movies we were going to watch or did I just not want to see her ever again. I had a very stressful day and wasn’t sure how to respond and I didn’t for most of the day because time got away from me. She sent a follow up saying “sorry for bothering you. I’ll delete it. Hope you are doing better” and I honestly don’t know what to say or if I should even say anything at this point.

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It’s important to note that we had only been casually seeing each other for about a month and hung out about 4 times.

[kylee2437]

Leave it alone. Both of you established that this situation isn’t healthy and you also told her the truth about what you were looking for. It’s not your problem at this point that she didn’t listen to what you said. Props to you for being honest in the first place

[Guy13]

So, you need how many red flags both on her Resume and in her doing? This woman is beyond depressed. She's cold sociopath and if i could meet her for an hour tell you if psychopath. You need to go far away. And as you are discovering, she can only function on the covert in the unanimity of Dating App.

You will never know her true feelings and thoughts. Play at your own Risk.

[Sevenpointfive]

you don't sound like a nice guy, so it's better to not pretend you are and leave it at that and say nothing

[watercolor_lions]

It sounds like you two aren't on the same page at all. I'd unhook this fish before things get crazy.

She's already trying to be possessive of you, even though you both stated you were going to see other people. That is a terrible sign and should be avoided. If she's like that one month in, imagine what she'd be like after 2? 3? 11?

No. I'd say no.

[Asker]

Ya…that’s what freaked me out. Because she was always telling me about the other guys she was talking to, they were normally how they weren’t going great, which is why I was so confused when she got upset I was talking to other people. She asked if she wasn’t good enough and asked if I just wasn’t satisfied with her.

I said it wasn’t that at all, I just thought we had both agreed that this wasn’t exclusive and we were just friends with benefits, and she said we were but she still doesn’t understand why I would be talking to other people.

[watercolor_lions]

You're talking to someone abusive. People who do this will never want equality in the relationship. She'll use you as a security blanket, and do anything she wants, while making you wait on her all day.

I'm glad you're leaving.