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28F, just leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like I’m a runway model yet guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches has never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? Even when I was more engaged it still led to the same pattern of no success. A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person? I dated someone for a few months back when I was 23 & after dealing with someone I felt like I settled for, I decided I’d rather be alone vs be with someone I am not crazy for. I’m kind of at the point where I’m apathetic & I just feel too old to be bothered.

Gym manager is attracted to me, but can’t tell if he’s a f*ckboy that does it w everyone. He’s extremely attractive til the point that I’m finding it hard to speak around him

First visit: he came over and asked if a resistance band was mine. Thought he was trying to pack it away, didn’t think much of it but noticed he kept walking past / looking at me

2nd visit: I was facing the mirror doing my stretches and he took a really deep breath when he saw me (like he was nervous?) He spoke (I had to get out my earphones) and asked if the resistance band was mine. At this point, I am thinking my resistance band either really annoys him or he’s trying v hard to talk to me

Went back to my thing and saw he turned to check me out while I stretched

3) 3rd visit: I was on the stairmaster and he was putting away the weights while facing me and lingered in the area

I went to the hiit studio, and didn’t know how to operate the lights and went out to seek help and lo and behold, he was the first one I saw. After He turned it on with the iPad, he was fiddling w the device / lingeringyI was an awkward mess and just said thanks without looking him in the eyes. he had this big smile on his face when he said no problem and kept touching his hair. I just turned away and went to get my equipment. He kept looking over at me before he walked out the door.

I kicked myself & told myself I’d approach him upstairs at the concierge when I finished my workout. When I got out of the hit studio, he was sat on the recovery chair right outside like he was waiting for me to get out? The gym was closing at this point and there was no one else in that section so he could have been anywhere else. I again freaked out due to nerves and walked right past him - the poor guy turned and looked at me walk away

I believe he’s trying very hard to approach me without being disrepectful. But I’m not confident and he’s absolutely gorgeous which explains my nerves. Any tips on how to make things happen?