How do I get a shy guy to approach me?

[Anonymous]

[Fireguy17]

Do this, quit the stupid game playing and go approach him before someone else does that and you end up losing out on your chance.
You are an adult; your age range shows 18 to 24.
It is an adult thing to do.
Just a heads up, most guys are pretty clueless that someone likes them.
I was in a band and a girl that my cousin dated a couple of times asked me if I was going to this party, and I really didn't have a plan to go.
I told my cousin about who asked me if I was going to that party, and he said that she was really interested in me.
We got married about 2 years later.
When she first met me she said something about that she didn't get the good one, or hot one when she saw me, I shrugged it off, probably got another beer and we went to this place in a resort town that had a band and a DJ on weekends, I went there a lot so I knew quite a few women there, so I was dancing with them having fun and I noticed that she kept looking at me funny, but I was having fun, she wasn't my date so I never gave it a second thought.
We talked about it after we started going out and it turns out she was really jealous that I was with others, but she wasn't my date.
I was clueless.
She was my cousin's date, not mine.
Had she never asked me about that party I probably would not have gone, and who knows what would have happened.
If you snooze you lose, so just start talking to him.

[Gentleman900]

Hope im not jumping on this too late, but it's kind of hard for him to approach you. You have to be the one to give him signs that you may be interested. The number one thing you MUST do and I mean MUST do is make sure he is interested in you first. You have to check for signs like him staring at you, nervous around you, fidgety, and maybe check for blushing aswell. I feel like the number one sign of a shy guy showing interest in you is if he stares A LOT, especially if you catch him staring. When I had a crush on women even in my big ass age of 25, I would admire them from afar. I wouldn't want them to catch me staring because I was shy. The second thing you must do is show a slight interest in him, enough for him to know that you may be interested but not too much to scare him off. Now this is probably the most difficult of them all. This step is a hit or miss. It depends on how you approach the situation. It's not what you say, it's how you say it. Be very friendly and open and bubbly and smiley. You want him to know that you are open to accepting him. Don't fake it, but be your natural self without scaring him off. The reason for this is that you don't want him to feel intimidated. Best of luck!

[catiecatie]

My crush does this. Acts a little shy around me and very clumsy. We have each others numbers but I think he’s a little scared to start the conversation and I don’t want to sound like an idiot. I do have to text him here soon about a test so we will see what happens on that one.

[Gentleman900]

@catiecatie that is the perfect way to start a convo! Ask him about the test and take note of how long he takes to respond aswell as how he responds. Also, if you notice he is very chatty online, but in public, he seems very shy then that could be a sign that he likes you. He's clumsy because he can't concentrate haha! I was like that too!

[catiecatie]

I’m going to text him this weekend. It’s been like 3 weeks since I saw him last and I need to take this test. So I figured I’d study and then once I feel confident that I will pass I will sign up and text him.

[intovertedguy]

@catiecatie It won't hurt if you're the who starts the conversation.

[catiecatie]

@intovertedguy I am going to start the conversation. Don’t you worry

[intovertedguy]

@catiecatie Great, good luck.

[Jessicasmidgen86]

Sounds to me that he's something we like to call an 'lone 🐺 Wolf' he's an introvert when it comes to approaching/asking girls out, but an alpha when he needs to be one. My boyfriend was the same way. Shy, afraid to ask me out on a date. I already knew from my friends and his that he liked me. We would talk occasionally. I could see that he was hiding his feelings. I finally asked him if he wanted to hang out. 2 years later and I love him to death. He will not ask you out. You will need to do that. He probably doesn't even know that you like him as well. Ask to hang out either together or with friends. It would suck 2 people who like each other and neither makes a move. This could be a great relationship just waiting to happen. Go and get your lone 🐺

[Girl242]

Be vulnerable does not push people away, it pulls them closer.
Stop being afraid to show you aren't perfect, because that imperfection you hold is literally the thing that will drawn him nearer.

You can't get someone else to do anything. You can only control yourself.

You can spend the rest of your life doing this and being afraid to live or you can be brave and stop letting the fear stop you. You are what you currently are, so give up being perfect. Be willing to fail. If you don't approach him you fail automatically.

[Jessicasmidgen86]

Very well said! I've mentioned previously that this is a great relationship waiting to bloom. You gotta be brave and ask him out. Go and get your lone 🐺

[OlderAndWiser]

Ask him to help you with something.

[intovertedguy]

The simple answer is like approach the shy guy, be patient he will be nervous, but he will talk. If he happens to get away from you don't feel discouraged, he is not being rude, he's just overwhelmed by anxiety. Give him another opportunity. we would love girls to approach us and do please quit the game. Also know we aren't good at reading signals they are too subtle. Truth be said most man and women are bad at reading signals.

I'm talking from experience, i'm not only introverted but also shy.

[intovertedguy]

This may help you:

Introverted Shy Guys, How Did You Meet You Girlfriend?
h-t-t-ps://www. youtube. com/watch? v=_48kv1sA-oU

[DizzyDesii]

Im shy but if he's shy, I’m more comfortable approaching. I love shy guys. When you’re both shy, one of you pretty much have to make a move. A lot of shy guys are lonewolves so that makes them even easier to approach. Just give it a go and if he's not interested, on to the next

[DizzyDesii]

I know the question is about getting him to approach but I think you’re gonna have to at least show him you’re interested and comfortable around him for him to do so

[Massageman]

Just to elaborate a bit on OlderAndWiser's answer.

If you know the "shy guy" has a particular hobby/strong area of interest/or area of expertise, try to ask a question IN THAT AREA. He will feel more comfortable and more likely to engage in some sort of chat/explanation if he doesn't feel intimidated. There is comfort in knowledge for him.

[Massageman]

If he isn't "reading your signals", you can always help him along, place his hand on your "heart" and assure him it's OK to touch, etc. One of my girlfriends had slid her hand up my leg and gently grasped me. I told her" now that you have me, what are you going to do with me?" She whispered, "Put you inside me!" I had no idea- so, sometimes we need a hint or two- like hit us with a brick, maybe.

[Rockstarrrrr]

Depends on how shy he is... maybe if you flirt or make it super obvious that you like him, he would... your call... But I think most shy guys are actually waiting for the girl to make the first move lol

[Asker]

But I'm shy too that's the problem lol

[intovertedguy]

Your advice is good. Some of us are thinking how to approach the girl we like and not seem creepy. However if the girl doesn't mind to approach us first we will be thankful.

[intovertedguy]

Do you have friends in common?

[Jessicasmidgen86]

Shy guys are often considered attractive because their maturity, intelligence, or mystery. If you have a crush on a shy guy, though, don’t count on him being the one to make a move or ask you out. Remember, most shy people don’t open up right away. Make sure that he’s comfortable being around you, and bring up the idea of dating once you and he have had a few enjoyable conversations. You gotta do it

[Rockstarrrrr]

@Jessicasmidgen86 @intovertedguy yes...
Asker... If you're both shy then you're probably screwed lol... Two shy people make it super hard... Someone has to make a move...

[Sharkstealth]

You could always get in his way or in his vision. Brush against him accidentally. If he is interested he will eventually approach. Currently there are 2 gals who have been trying very hard to get me to approach and it's obvious. I don't like the company they surround themselves with. I don't like super extroverted people and have no attraction to them.

[nolabels]

If you want him to do the actual asking, you need to make him an offer he can't refuse.

Bat your eyes at him. Twirl your hair at the same time
Present your body towards him in various seductive ways.
In other words, use your charms.

[ScottBae]

I doubt he will ask her out. I've had the same experience with my now boyfriend who was the same way, shy

[nolabels]

@ScottBae
I was extremely shy as a young guy.
Extremely shy.
When it was shoved in my face almost as if she were a sexy belly dancer, I finally responded.

Her mileage may vary.

[crossdressingrihno]

You approach him instead walk up to him and basically say “hey_____ I thought were cute and wanted to see if you’d like to hang out sometime?”
The important thing is telling him what you think.

[ohsheeT]

Look at him and say psst. Your first finger on your hand up in the air and motion come here

[Anonymous]

You know we're actually suffering from trolling questions every now and then.
But if this is your problem then it's a good question. And the answer to it is to actually flirt to him, this way you're making him challenge himself to approach you.

[MJackson1234]

How about asking him out? Stop playing games. I find it funny how some girls are more than happy to have a one night stand but can't walk up to a guy she likes and ask if he wants to go out on a date.

[Unit1]

Wow. Very impressively said. Just marvelous.
And then they say all men want only one thing. 🙄

[Boblazar]

He is not going to ask you out. He's shy and probably has his own reasons as to why. You need to woman up and ask him out. Ask to hang out. Everybody in here is telling you that. If you keep replying back that you're shy as well, than you will be single for the rest of your remaining life on this earth. Why ruin a potential great relationship that could happen. Ask him out and get it over with. I suppose he likes you?

[FrioMan]

Be blunt and upfront and honest. Sometimes u need to make the first move and take charge. Depending on the guy lol if he's into it then he will respond appropriately.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Grab him by his hand and say I need help with something. Put a charm in his eyes.

[Berethor]

Stop being anonymous, maybe one of the shy guys will see you here and send a message.

[Unit1]

meow behind him whenever you encounter him i guess since you are shy too 🫠

No but for real. Can't really make that happen. Its do or do not. Yourself.

[GOOSEBOY78]

you dont. because if he likes you: he won't, so your gonna have to make the first move.

[Vikkrram]

I tried and i seriously messed up lol. And now we even don't look at each others lol

[slatyb]

Approach him. Say hello. Invite him to lunch or dinner.

[PizzaDaddyo]

Say nothing.


Do the come over here finger.


What are you gonna say, “Approach me?”




APPROACH ME! AHHHHHH!