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So I have this coworker he's a rather timid man and doesn't speak much unless you specifically ask him a question typically.

I wouldn't call him unfriendly or anything personally I like him and like hearing what he has to say. So I probably bother him a bit to much 😅 just to be clear I like him in a platonic way not a romantic way. And I'm married so I'm sure he knows that.

He stated last week that he doesn't have any friends just as a off handed comment that he probably forgot he told me.

I was thinking about inviting him to go do something and would like to be his friend but I honestly don't know if he wants a friend he might just be politely tolerating my bullshit and just doesn't want to tell me to fuck off and leave him alone

So what do you think should I ask him to hangout or no?

This last week I took off 3 days of work & we went to visit his best friend and his wife. I had made plans for a happy hour with a friend last night & Wed afternoon he told me I needed to go to a client dinner with him so I cancelled my original plans. We are hosting the duo we just went & visited this last weekend since they are coming into town for a wedding. Last night on our way to dinner he lets me know he’s going to a guys night tonight & so I reach out to one of my girlfriends to hang out. Today he asks if there’s any way I can leave work early & I do. I let him know I can & that i’m running 2 quick errands first. I get home & he’s playing xbox and asks me to blow him. I the comment & start doing chores. After I have been home for 45 minutes he comes to me and starts undoing his pants &gesturing to give him a bj, I just stare. He mouths how I never want to “take care of him” and walks off. I tell him the reason I am not is because he is going to be gone all night with the boys &when I come home he’s playing games with the boys for 45 min so I don’t feel obligated to serve him when he’s not considering the time with me. He states he isn’t going to fight with me and I told him I’m not fighting just telling you why I’m not giving you a bj. He goes to lay in bed &I go lay beside him while he scrolls social for about 20 min before turning away from me &acting like he is going to sleep. I get up to feed the dogs and go to sit by the pool and within 5 min he is leaving the house, not saying a word to me, then texts noticeably annoyed that he will be gone until boys night starts. This is somewhat a common occurrence when he doesn’t get his way, he’ll ignore me even if I try to talk to him he won’t respond. I just don’t see why he doesn’t get we have &are about to spend a lot of time with his people &I’d like to think he’d take advantage of our alone time, not use it to continue to spend with others and only give me attention if intimacy is involved. General thoughts?