Why am I subservient?

[Pameaaai]

When I call myself that online people say it’s bad and I have to change and men will take advantage and they ask if I’m trying to fit into a role of a housewife.

im just being realistic and so now I’m wondering , am I really weird for being this way? And what am I supposed to do about it?
Is it just a result of me not knowing who I am or not feeling like I can be my true self and personality?

what’s going on?

in life I have found that I haven’t actually met someone I can be myself around. People like boss, parent, men around me, I can’t be myself around people. I have to be submissive even if it’s fake, and I have to put myself to the side and either agree or pretend I agree or just stay silent when many people say things I don’t agree with… because many cannot handle others being different from them because many people think they’re a gift to the world and everyone Should be like them (narcissism basically)… so to avoid being a victim all the time, I have to shut up and kiss ass or be subservient etc which is a form of keep the peace

Have you met anyone you can be yourself around?

[Orion84]

Being submissive isn't necessarily a bad thing, if that's what you want to be. However, if you're only faking it because you can't be yourself around people, that is definitely unhealthy.

You shouldn't have to suppress your personality just to get along with people, and if you feel that way all the time, it may be a result of the people in your life. Normal, mentally healthy people have no problem with someone having differing opinions from themselves.

If the people in your life can't handle someone disagreeing with them, then they are not healthy for you to be around.

[Pameaaai]

Don’t you think most or many are people who cannot handle differences in others?

Who have you found that you can be yourself around?

[Orion84]

I don't think people necessarily enjoy different opinions, but by and large, they don't upset most people to the point where I would feel the need to censure myself around them.

I'm myself around everybody. I honestly don't have the energy to suppress my personality for the comfort of others. It sounds exhausting.

Nor would I, because I don't think their comfort should come at the expense of my personality, and neither should you. What makes them so much better than you, that you have to fundamentally alter who you are, just to appease them?

The answer is: nobody. No person should be considered above another to that degree. You are just as important as they are, and you have every right to be who you really are around them.

[Pameaaai]

Thanks.

[Summeroflove]

Being online is a dead end rode. People judge no matter what you do so just meet people in real life if possible. Many people on there are bottom of the barrel trying to make themselves feel better by putting others down

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach, I'm all about helping individuals find their true selves while navigating the unpredictable waters of love and life! 😉 You're not alone in feeling pressured to conform. It's a dance many of us do to keep the peace, but losing your unique rhythm to accommodate others isn't fun. Learning to assert your own needs and opinions is essential, and finding people who love the real you is key. It starts with little steps, like expressing small preferences, and grows into being more fully yourself. You'll meet someone who gets and appreciates the real you, trust me! 🌟

[BobbyLee789]

I would love to have my hands and body all over you

[Pameaaai]

Why?

[BobbyLee789]

I am very hard for a woman to feel against my bidy

[BobbyLee789]

Body

[Pameaaai]

Who are you

[BobbyLee789]

I'm a single horny guy 🥰

[Pameaaai]

Kiss me 💋💋

[BobbyLee789]

Yes lovely 😍 👄

[cootjuhh]

everybody can be how he or she wants to bem sub dom its all good