Search Results: a lot of things changing

I come from a conservative community, so I hear a lot of complaints about how new generations of men aren't "manly enough" for this reason or that reason. People saying Harry Styles isn't a man because he wears a dress, or you're not manly if you paint your nails or things like that. Wouldn't it be better to assume, for your sake and for theirs, that masculinity changes as time goes on?

It was only recently brought to my attention that every generation of men has complained about the new generation of men, going all the way back to the time of Ancient Rome when men complained that men weren't manly enough compared to the generation before them. The person presenting it gave this idea of "We can never meet the standards of masculinity if they always come from the past" so I'm curious. Do you ever feel like you can never meet those manly standards?

28F, I haven’t dated someone in years & haven’t met someone from a dating app in over a yr. I’m at the point where I just don’t feel the desire to be active on them & use them kind of sporadically throughout the week. I’m really worried that years down the line I will regret being as isolated as I’ve been, considering I don’t have a social life. I don’t want kids & when it comes to friendships, I don’t put myself out there either. I just don’t have the energy to deal with people, most friends I’ve had throughout the years I’ve cut off. Im not one to settle with people’s bs for the sake of not being alone, I’m quick to cut people off when they do things that bother me after an extended amount of time. With dating, I haven’t had sex or masturbated in years. I find men attractive but sometimes I wonder if men like me. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & getting matches on the apps have never been the issue. It usually just doesn’t work out & it can go both ways, I never get approached by guys that’s always been my reality. People are a lot of work & relationships are too much work at times, I’m kind of apathetic but my anxiety takes over at times. Maybe the right person will change everything.

Imagine your life is a movie, and you're the main character because it's your life. Are you a protagonist who is a hero, anti-hero, or villain? Why?

If you're wondering about me:It's me hi, I'm the problem, it's me. I think I'd be the anti-hero and no, it's not just because I'm a Taylor Swift fan. I think at the core, I'm the kind of person who always tries to do the right thing, but, sometimes when I'm a little too in my feelings I can become reckless and selfish and act irrationally because I feel bad, and that creates damage I only see after the damage has been done. Why I'd not class myself as a villain is because usually after I see the damage I've done, I will try to fix it and own up to my mistake, and I feel a villain would just take the completely selfish route and ruin things because if they can't be happy nobody can, whereas I still may not be happy but once I'm back to rationality I'm like: "Okay I did something bad, how can I fix this?" Also I tend to have a lot self-sabotaging qualities that I'm completely aware of, but for the most part indulge in anyway and often I do little to change but I'm trying to change that now, I just can't expect it to happen overnight. In the past my thought process was more: "I'm destructing myself, not anyone else, so why should I care? It's just me." But that's an incredibly toxic mindset to have and I'm trying to change because I have a lot of potential to do well, but because of my self-destructive tendencies that potential often just stays potential. But I will change don't worry.

Anyway enough about me, what about you?