I was in a long distance relationship with a girl I met online. We live in two different "third-world" countries. Things went well for about a year.
But then there was a time when she acted cold and distant and I felt pushed away. And during that time I had a crush on a girl I know here. I'm not proud of it and I didn't act on it but it made me feel that I can't do long distance anymore so I decided to call it off.
She didn't take it well, and said a lot of mean stuff to me and all. But I understand that she was hurt and I didn't take it personally.
But about a month later we both started missing each other and began talking about getting back together. I told her to take time in order to get over past grudges. But she told me that she wants me back no matter what. And I wanted that too. So we got back together.
And after we got back, I did my best to get over the past grudges and not mention them to her. But she didn't do that. In fact she used them (specifically my crush on the other girl) as an excuse to give me cold and distant treatment.
Eventually I couldn't take it anymore and I told her that I'm done with this relationship. My mental health had got bad. But she got all emotional and pleaded me to stay. As much as I was hurt, I still loved her, and when she was literally begging for me to stay I couldn't say no. I decided to give her another chance.
After that things were somewhat okayish for a while but we always had that cold and dry phase. I was still hurt. She told me to take time to heal. She did try to change a bit. But still things weren't great.
A few days ago I told her I can't do this anymore. Now she is giving me threats. She said that I'll have to pay for wasting her time. She had once tried to text the girl I had a crush on. I ended up telling that girl the whole situation (she is my friend now so she understood). But I am still scared of what my ex would do next. She has mental health issues (but won't seek help).
How do I deal with her?
But then there was a time when she acted cold and distant and I felt pushed away. And during that time I had a crush on a girl I know here. I'm not proud of it and I didn't act on it but it made me feel that I can't do long distance anymore so I decided to call it off.
She didn't take it well, and said a lot of mean stuff to me and all. But I understand that she was hurt and I didn't take it personally.
But about a month later we both started missing each other and began talking about getting back together. I told her to take time in order to get over past grudges. But she told me that she wants me back no matter what. And I wanted that too. So we got back together.
And after we got back, I did my best to get over the past grudges and not mention them to her. But she didn't do that. In fact she used them (specifically my crush on the other girl) as an excuse to give me cold and distant treatment.
Eventually I couldn't take it anymore and I told her that I'm done with this relationship. My mental health had got bad. But she got all emotional and pleaded me to stay. As much as I was hurt, I still loved her, and when she was literally begging for me to stay I couldn't say no. I decided to give her another chance.
After that things were somewhat okayish for a while but we always had that cold and dry phase. I was still hurt. She told me to take time to heal. She did try to change a bit. But still things weren't great.
A few days ago I told her I can't do this anymore. Now she is giving me threats. She said that I'll have to pay for wasting her time. She had once tried to text the girl I had a crush on. I ended up telling that girl the whole situation (she is my friend now so she understood). But I am still scared of what my ex would do next. She has mental health issues (but won't seek help).
How do I deal with her?
