What do I do? Abusive ex not leaving me alone after break up?

[Anonymous]

My abusive ex dumped me in 2022. But called me 2023 to use me since his blind date did not show up. Then on valentines day he ask me for 25 buck on PayPal out f spite. He tells me he fucked his new finance and that he doesn't want me he keeps telling me he loves he's new girlfriend and how she is better and how he is fucking her and that he rather have kids with me he had done a lot of evil things to me but he has never been punish I just think it's unfair because I respect him when he said we should move on to bigger and better things. I respect the fact he wanted to break up and I gave him his space. But he did not due the same for me instead of giving me space he is shaming me infrount f all my enemies saying he loves this girl he looked at my life and told his new girlfriend that her life is better and said right in front of me with his new girl your way better than this slut and I was saving my virginity for him and he tells his new girlfriend that she better than me n that I am a slut. He not leaving me alone after the break up he keeps telling me constantly about his new woman saying I don't want to be part of your fantasy and she better than u and that she's better than me cuz am a slut. 😭😭😭

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He said he rather have kids with her and that he dosent want my pussy*

[MaazHussain]

I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with this situation. It sounds like your ex-boyfriend is being emotionally abusive and manipulative towards you. It's important that you prioritize your own mental health and well-being, and don't let his words and actions affect you.

Firstly, it's important to cut off all contact with him. Block him on all social media platforms and on your phone. If he continues to harass you, consider getting a restraining order. It's also a good idea to let your friends and family know about the situation, so they can offer support and help keep you safe.

It's important to remember that you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness in any relationship. It's not your fault that your ex-boyfriend is treating you this way, and you have every right to move on and find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated. If you're having a hard time dealing with the emotional impact of the situation, consider seeking help from a therapist or counselor. They can help you process your emotions and provide you with tools and strategies to cope with the situation.

In short, it's important to prioritize your own well-being and safety in this situation. Cut off all contact with your ex-boyfriend and seek support from friends, family, or a professional if needed. Remember that you deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, and don't let his words and actions bring you down.

[integrale77]

Sounds a bit crazy but here's what you need to do: -

Block him on any social media and block any new accounts he makes too if he does that.

Don't answer the phone to him block his number if you can and don't answer any anonymous callers same if you have a land line too ideally you want caller display on that.

Change the locks on your home so he can't get in.

Rip out any spy cams or bugs he has setup and take them to the police as evidence.

If there is something else that he has a hold over you with that you don't want to discuss here (it seems like there is) seek the appropriate advice there will be a way out of it!

[Anonymous]

Tell him once; please don’t talk to me the way you do and do not come at me directly or indirectly it makes me uncomfortable.


If he proceeds on his own more than three times, call police and get a restraining order.
But each time u respond to him, you are feeding this issue.

[ShesRad80]

block him on every platform and change your number. do not ever answer that loser

[Adam1978]

If he is your ex how does it comes he is around you? Just block all his communications channels. If he still shows up get a restraining order from the cops.

[Asker]

It's very complicated and it's not that simple for me

[ShiftingMonke]

Not that simple for you? I'm not buying it. By all accounts, based on what you've said, you have every right and reason to cut him out of your life.
If you want him or think the abuse is worth it, by all means, keep doing what you're doing; allowing him in your life to do harm has been the modus operandi so far, especially if you play along with his games. There is no shame in saying you enjoy it. But the simplest, easiest, and best thing you can do is cut him out of your life. Refusing to do so is a tacit admission of permission. And that, by proxy, means you have no one to blame but yourself.

[Asker]

You have no idea how much I suffer none of you can fully grasp my situation I cut him off because I respect and love myself. Even if I tell people how much I suffer they are not going it not buying it not buying my suffering whatever no one can truly understand what am going through it is beyond your understanding you think it's just a mere abusive relationship it is more than that

[Adam1978]

Why in the hell do you respect a person that treat you like that. He is disrespectful and doesn't deserve anything from you. So get him out of your life and any friends that side with him. Your respect should have died with your relationship when he started acting like that afterwards.

[Adam1978]

So you are as guilty to your suffering as him because you allow it to happen when you have a way out.

[ShiftingMonke]

I'm not refuting your suffering, lord no. I'm sure he's caused you pain.

I'm saying you've been drinking from a bottle, a drink which makes you sick and sad and the only reason you do it is because you've drank it for years. When someone points it out to you that the bottle reads 'poison', the onus is now on you; before, you could claim ignorance, but now you can't. You can no longer pretend it's good for you. You have no other excuse. You can keep drinking, of course, you know the taste and it hasn't killed you yet. But you can no longer complain about it, or expect pity. You are doing it to yourself, and as such, shall receive no pardon.
Block him, delete him, get him out of your life; put the bottle down.

[Asker]

I don't have a way out blocking him or telling the police doesn't help in my situation

[ShiftingMonke]

How does he communicate with you?

[Asker]

Spy gear

[ShiftingMonke]

.. spy gear? Do you two have walkie talkies or something?

[Asker]

No like spy gear to see my home and some how talk to me

[Adam1978]

Go to the cops, he is breaking the law if he has spy gear in your apartment. They can both arrest him and clean that stuff out.

[ShiftingMonke]

.. okay. well that 100% sounds like some methmath..

'Spy gear to see my home and somehow talk to me'

Like, what? Is he using a burning bush, girl? The man walks up to you and uses his mouth to articulate words. Or he uses a phone to sent you text messages, phone calls, snaps, video calls, something. Maybe if he's romantic, he will use carrier pigeon, smoke signals, or pony express. But 'somehow'? Honey, if you're hearing his voice in your head, he is not the issue.

[Asker]

People don't understand it's a higher power doing this to me

[Adam1978]

Okay time to move to a mental hospital and befriend the local napoleon. You are responsible for your own mental state, no one else.

[Wilson3000]

Block him on everything you are on, also change your number a bit of a pain but so worth it. Don’t and I repeat DON’T engage with him, don’t speak to him don’t open the door to him don’t do anything with him pretend he’s dead, he’ll eventually get the hint it might take a while but be strong.

[slatyb]

Why are you still communicating with him? Just block him.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Get a new number, block him on social media, delete Facebook and any of the rest of them, if possible. Get a restraining order.

[MysticDevice]

Block him on everything and don't even acknowledge his existence.

[Anonymous]

i'm sorry you're going through that it's kind of fucked up

[whereismyjohnny]

Block him and get a restraining order.

[Alex8736]

file a restraining order and block all contact

[In_Trance]

did you give him the money?

[FunkyMonkee]

Call da fuzz!

[Danny_dan92]

Restraining order.

[Luckycharms12]

Block him

[Pterodon]

Legal action