I started dating this guy and we've only been dating a few months. He's is a really suave, coolheaded guy and I get nervous around him a lot. I really like him and don't want to mess it up. I’m a really chatty, extroverted girl and I love to tell stories and laugh. Recently, I’ve noticed that he doesn’t really react to jokes or things I say at all, he just says "ah, very cool" then moves on. He seems to continue wanting to spend time with me though. However, he really likes alone time and only likes to see me about once a week. If I ask him to come out somewhere he always says no. He's said no to plans with my family 3-4 times now. I’m starting to get embarrassed because I feel like I’m “too much” for him and he doesn’t like me. I’ve brought this up several times and he insists he does. However, he never really includes me in family plans, and likes to keep his life very to himself. He does things with his friends but not me. He likes to see me about once a week and we watch netflix or something and he asks about my day and seems to care. So when I ask if he still likes me he seems surprised. Should I be asking him for more?
I keep bringing up that sometime feels off with us, but he always insists there isn't. I feel embarrassed and like I’m doing something wrong here and just nothing I do works. Do I just have anxiety/low confidence?
For example, if I ask him to do something twice in a week, that's usually too much for him.
What’s the best advice for a match like this? I guess he really is introverted. I appreciate him so much, and want to show how much I care, but his style is just so aloof/new for me. Basically if I push him out of his safe zone he resists (ex. going on a trip with me). I am usually an extremely calm person, but having a guy like this has made me really nervous. Is it me flipping out/having anxiety, or him? Thanks!
