Hey all, I just started this really sweet, great guy, but I'm already noticing some differences in our personalities. He'll want the whole week alone to work on his projects, but he'll text me every day. Often he won't text back at all at night, I didn't understand this but brought it up & he said he was just a bad texter. It seems he really is an introvert, but I think I'm starting to get quite alone in the relationship.
I am perfectly fine with seeing him once a week, but it just seems he is never "excited" to see me? For example, I'll finally see him after a week & he finds this perfectly normal. He doesn't come & hug me/show affection just says "come look at this!" & shows me what he's worked on. On weekends I'll ask him to come do stuff (hiking, lakes, outdoors) but he never wants to come & always prefers to stay in. He literally only works on his projects, and when I finally see him after a week, again, he's not big on affection & doesn't love me staying over, likes his own space but finds this perfectly normal.
Again, obviously there is a big extrovert-introvert difference here. He is a wonderful guy just thinking it's maybe not the best time for him to be in a relationship? It's hard for me to initiate affection! Is there any way to make a compromise in this situation, or does he need someone as introverted as him?
Don't get me wrong, again, he really is a good guy. I'm just thinking it's not the best match. I wanted this to work, & I've already told him I felt alone, but he said he feels we do plenty. This is def my fault for dragging it out so long... I should've brought it up sooner, or asked to be friends. I think we are drifting apart now & past the point of no return...
Also, this is his first relationship. Any advice much appreciated. Is this just how some guys are? How can I understand my boyfriend better or adjust my standards? Thanks so much! <3
I am perfectly fine with seeing him once a week, but it just seems he is never "excited" to see me? For example, I'll finally see him after a week & he finds this perfectly normal. He doesn't come & hug me/show affection just says "come look at this!" & shows me what he's worked on. On weekends I'll ask him to come do stuff (hiking, lakes, outdoors) but he never wants to come & always prefers to stay in. He literally only works on his projects, and when I finally see him after a week, again, he's not big on affection & doesn't love me staying over, likes his own space but finds this perfectly normal.
Again, obviously there is a big extrovert-introvert difference here. He is a wonderful guy just thinking it's maybe not the best time for him to be in a relationship? It's hard for me to initiate affection! Is there any way to make a compromise in this situation, or does he need someone as introverted as him?
Don't get me wrong, again, he really is a good guy. I'm just thinking it's not the best match. I wanted this to work, & I've already told him I felt alone, but he said he feels we do plenty. This is def my fault for dragging it out so long... I should've brought it up sooner, or asked to be friends. I think we are drifting apart now & past the point of no return...
Also, this is his first relationship. Any advice much appreciated. Is this just how some guys are? How can I understand my boyfriend better or adjust my standards? Thanks so much! <3
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