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I am not seeking validation otherwise, I would have posted a selfie and asked if you thought I was attractive. The truth is that I am not butt ugly and some girls will call me "okay" while others will say they have no attraction to me whatsoever. The reason I still can get girls is because I am okay looking, and some will settle for me. The thing is I am not a 6/10 or above. I am at best, a 5/10, on my best hair day.

The truth is that I persisted anyway, and I tried dating, regardless with optimism. I was cheated on, hit physically and ended up comparing myself with guys that I was left for. Yes, the girls I dated would leave me for other guys all the time. I remember the first time it happened, I cried, and I asked her, "is it because he is more attractive than me?" The girl told me, "Oh, stop. I am not answering that question." I still managed to regain confidence every time, but the same thing always happened. One girl told me, "It is like cars. I won't wash or take care of an ugly car." Because she broke up with me and took the new handsome guy camping with her own money. I asked her why she was treating him so much better than me and she responded with that car comparison. I also do not have a boring personality. I am fun, pretty smart and have a successful path laid out.

It has just been really rough, and I am at the point of just giving up. Maybe it is the girls I am dating? I will mention that I have only ever dated above my league so maybe I should date down instead?

The 22-year-old in question owns a white 2022 Ford Mustang GT Premium (automatic), and the 27-year-old in question is a "trap mom" (as she calls herself) who owns a green 2021 Dodge Charger R/T Scat Pack narrow-body (automatic). Both girls have mostly guys (who also own such fast cars) taking photoshoots of them around their cars. They're very active on Instagram.

The 22-year-old never gave me ANY attention. She gave ONE comment of mine a like, that's it. She's younger than me by NEARLY a month. We're both 2000 babies!

The 27-year-old however was free to dm me (I was flirty with her and her car, she loved that), like most of my comments, even gave me a shoutout. But HOLY CRAP, I thought she didn't like me at first.

I don't have a car of my own. The 22-year-old lives in Florida, and the 27-year-old lives in California (*but* too damn far away from where I live).

Neither girl follows me back, but the 27-year-old "trap mom" liked many of my posts as I gave her some attention.

I also tend to give unique and funny compliments that stand out. I don't just say a girl is beautiful or gorgeous anymore, that's some "nice guy" shit obviously.

Honestly, I never had a girlfriend before and I am really looking to get back on Tinder and Bumble so that God can find the right girl for me.

I'm honestly unwilling to date a girl who drives a fast car either way (especially a high-performance V8 muscle car). I'm worried she might do dangerous activities or be a bad influencer not just on me but on my family.

I'm more into girls that drive basic cars like the Civic, Accord, Corolla, Camry. F*ck Nissan and the pre-2009 Hyundai/Kia tbh.