Do westerners like a conservative minded person like me?

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I'm from a Muslim parts of Asia (I'm not a Muslim, but I'm quite influenced by Islamic + Christian doctrines towards dating).
I have a lot of questions towards westerners about dating a western individuals as an Easterner, I'm not so sure if a western individuals will date me due to my conservative thoughts towards dating :
- No sex before Marriage (No Zinah)
- No Kiss before Marriage
- must date more than a year before hugging each other
- No Smoking (that includes Tobacco and re-Creational drugs)
- No re-Recreational drugs
- must be financially stable and knows how to manage their own finances
While at the same time :
- I don't mind if my future partner has a friend of the opposite gender
- I don't mind their virginity
- Splitting the bills and finances
- Girls/Guys asking me out first
Etc.
So basically I'm afraid of any unwanted dramas, because of my thoughts towards dating. And since I'm very conservative about it, I'm trying to ask this question on this forum. To make sure what to expect when dating a western individuals (whether it's a girl or a guy), since I'm a bit conservative on sex but liberal when it comes to other stuff.

PrettyPriya · Accepted Answer

I am not western nor conservative but can still answer this question because it is quite simple. You are going to find some people that like your views and others that don't. That is going to be true of anywhere in the world. It is about finding a girl that shares your values.

There is nothing wrong with having a preference and sticking to it. I come from a very much traditionally conservative culture and religion. However, my family is very much westernized due to my parents being western educated. Our values, while still somewhat traditional, also allow for me to be more openminded when dating.

That is just what I prefer and the way I was brought up. I don't see issues with the values you hold and again, it will be all about finding a girl that shares though. Doesn't matter what country the come from.

Some will and some won't.

KoolKita · Accepted Answer

I would definitely do all of the things you listed (although even though I agree with it, no hugs may be a little hard). As a westerner, I know that we probably like people more conservative, but I don't think that dating preferences are specific...

Friendlybro79 · Accepted Answer

As for Americans, I will speak my opinion but it's probably not 100% shared. I believe if you're truly American you won't care what others do because we're all free to express ourselves. Biblical way of living isn't the actual law. Here you should have a rights that say known of those things are illegal so live your life and be happy. Of course you can choose to follow the beliefs in any religion as well. No one should care because we all have the right here to believe in any religion or not.

Unfortunately many people forget that freedom of religion isn't just one religion. Some people people unfortunately will judge you because of deep religious beliefs and tell you you're wrong for some of those actions above. My belief is you be you

bean2k21 · Accepted Answer

If you want success in the West, then don't give a fuck if anybody likes you.

ethanallen · Answer

Muslims scare the shit out of me. They come to the United States, pretend to love America and want to be friends. Then they show up at work with guns and shoot up the fucking place. Whenever I'm within 20 feet of a Muslim, I have my eyes constantly on their hands to see when they go for the gun.

Spiritofn · Answer

You will not go anywhere except finding an autistic wife I couldn’t even read the whole thing it’s so bad.

If you add a kiss you’d probably become a respected public figure if you ever found a woman.

But in my opinion there’s no need to become a figure anyway just be you.

Exterminatore · Answer

I think you’d make a fine addition to this country. Perhaps you could even elevate some of our moral degenerates.

That said I think you’ll be hard pressed to find many women who will wait until marriage for both sex or to even kiss and also wait a year to hug, unfortunately. I do hope God almighty blesses you with a wife of your own in due time.

bakajana · Answer

I respect not having sex before marriage but the whole no hugging and no kissing thing is too much for me. Hugs are a must. I need to feel the bond even physically, if not I'd see you just as a good friend

Guy13 · Answer

Like Malaysia? I've spent time there and Thailand... You basic attributes, being Conservative, are about 50/50. Do not know anyone excepts Turks in my area...

QuietVerbena · Answer

Very few people want that but good luck. You might be better off looking for a girl from your own culture who shares your values.

annabananna · Answer

For me the no hugging would be too strict and I think many western women would feel the same. That doesn’t mean you won’t be able to find one that is ok with no hugging for a year it just may be pretty difficult.

MysticDevice · Answer

Its not as simple as "Westerners like this, but not that."

There are a LOT of people in the West. Some will hate you, some will adore you, and some simply won't care what you do or think as long as they're left alone.

letuswaltzforthedead · Answer

I think women would be more accepting of those standards than men but traditional women are rare.

Midnight_Kiss · Answer

That's not strictly a western/eastern thing, there are western men and women with a similar mind set to you.

MikeInHawaii · Answer

In Hawaii, women and teenage girls have hugged me when introduced to me and friends’ daughters kiss me on the cheek. No kissing for a year might seem cold and aloof.

BungusHighFivePizza · Answer

u just gotta be as good wif girls as ur standards r tite

Anonymous · Answer

Some people would like you, but the no-hugging for a year would be difficult for a lot of people. Relationships are supposed to be intimate, and instead you are proposing a business relationship.

monkeynutts · Answer

Not really, you guys often don't think correctly. For example I was talking to an Arab about gang related rape issues of Arab hate against white women, and he said the problem was cultural.

Agent_Elflord · Answer

Western Culture’s pretty loose these days. Not having sex until marriage is still pretty common, but not many people are willing to wait until marriage to kiss, unless they’re like Evangelist types.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Western people don't like non-white or non East Asian people in general. Maybe if you're a white Muslim then you may get liked.

sofia444 · Answer

Why you seeking validation here sister? They gonna call you prude for being conservative and a whore for not being conservative. There is no escape. I am a muslim too. Salam

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. I'm not a fan conservatives. They tend to be full of ish and don't look forward to progress and improvement.  They like staying stuck in the past or just one way of doing things.

WhiteBoyChill · Answer

I don’t understand why you can’t kiss a girl on the cheek or even hug her prior to marriage. How is that lustful?

TallAnon · Answer

As long as you find a very religious person, you should be ok. In general it clashes a lot with our way of life, so expect some pushback.

Do westerners like a conservative minded person like me?

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