I met a guy on a dating site 4 years ago. He's from here and he was finishing his degree. A month after we started talking he moved away to another state because he took a job there. We still talked for like 2 years though, and would have deep intellectual conversations (we are both sapiosexuals and value that a LOT). We were both poly at the time, but then i told him that I thought i was probably monogamous, and that I didn't think the poly lifestyle was for me. He didn't answer for a little while when I told him that.
I ended up getting a new phone and lost his number and had no way of communicating with him. Recently I made my facebook more searchable and the other day i received a DM from him. He told me he was so sorry that didn't respond to my last message, but he was having mixed feelings. And then once he wanted to contact me again, he had gotten a new phone and lost my number too. And that he missed me and our discussions so much. And he was SO happy to find me. And he's been searching for me for like the last 2 years, and he thought about me all the time. And that noone that he met after me could have the deep intellectual conversations like we used to have, and it wasn't fulfilling to him.
This time around he has been talking to me a lot more, has been more emotionally available, and shares more about his life than he did before. And i know he's very attracted to me. I asked him if he would visit me this time and he said he will absolutely make it happen. He didn't do that before.
But I don't know, he wasn't like this the first time. Does any of this mean anything? I dont want to think too much into it or get my hopes up. I have no expectations. Id be happy just being friends and just have intellectual conversations, but id date him in a heartbeat if thats what he wants.
Id like to hear what the guys here have to say about it
I ended up getting a new phone and lost his number and had no way of communicating with him. Recently I made my facebook more searchable and the other day i received a DM from him. He told me he was so sorry that didn't respond to my last message, but he was having mixed feelings. And then once he wanted to contact me again, he had gotten a new phone and lost my number too. And that he missed me and our discussions so much. And he was SO happy to find me. And he's been searching for me for like the last 2 years, and he thought about me all the time. And that noone that he met after me could have the deep intellectual conversations like we used to have, and it wasn't fulfilling to him.
This time around he has been talking to me a lot more, has been more emotionally available, and shares more about his life than he did before. And i know he's very attracted to me. I asked him if he would visit me this time and he said he will absolutely make it happen. He didn't do that before.
But I don't know, he wasn't like this the first time. Does any of this mean anything? I dont want to think too much into it or get my hopes up. I have no expectations. Id be happy just being friends and just have intellectual conversations, but id date him in a heartbeat if thats what he wants.
Id like to hear what the guys here have to say about it
