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Huge difference when it comes to genders on this one.
Being an attractive guy definitely comes with its advantages. But it is nowhere near the advantage attractive women can get. Not even close. It’s like a 200 meter head start in a 1600 meter race. Definitely but it’s no guarantee you will win.
Attractive women on the other hand literally get a 800 meter head start in a 1600 meter race. Half way to the finish line. They literally have to try to lose when competing with other women.
Attractive women do have to deal with some unique challenges (aggressive creeps, jealous women, people assuming they rely solely on their looks to get by, etc.). But they literally live in an alternative reality. Everybody treats them different and usually better.
However they often have zero idea what it’s really like for most other people in the world especially when it comes to dating. They are often the type that makes the very erroneous assumption that dating is the same way for guys as it is for them.
They won’t know either until they get older and/or they do something to screw up their looks (weight gain, too many viable tattoos, severe drug addiction, alcoholism, etc.).
I find that attractive women have a harder time aging then most. They suddenly find that the world demands more from them then their sexuality. There are exceptions of course. But it’s a tough adaptation for them.
u Dating requires two things.
1. You must be willing to risk rejection. You must accept the fact that you are not a good match for every girl and many will reject you NOT because there is something wrong with you, but only because you are not a good match for them. You can't take rejections personally.
Bottom line: "You've gotta take a chance if you wanna find romance."
2. You need to ask enough girls and at least one of them will accept. That is one of the reasons I liked internet dating sites when I was single. I had a large group of women available and if I messaged ten women, at least two or three would actually respond and at least one would accept a first date.
Depends on the attractiveness level. Decent looking, is average. Average people have the most advantage when dating. Attractive can be just a generally attractive woman you see in society who’s nothing really special. She will also have a lot of options, a lot more than her decent looking counterpart. But if the woman is very attractive, stunning or just generally gorgeous, then yes, she will have problems getting dates. She won’t be approached much, and most of the time, men just want to get her into bed. Most women agree that the man should approach first, and they do, but when you are too attractive as a woman, they stop feeling comfortable approaching which leads to fewer natural encounters with very attractive women.
@sudoers What?
Disagree. All the people I would like at this point are probably already taken. And I am old enough to know who to waste my time with and who are not worth it. If I were to stumble across the path of someone who would click with me it would be fated.
In your case.. try being completely genuine. You are either being too hesitant or perhaps fake. Be yourself and see how it goes.
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Anyone can get a first date... it's not impossible. You just need to try hard enough.
Many people have told me I'm attractive (could just be being nice, but I'll take their word for it) I workout often and have a decent slim/athletic physique and a lot of girls have told me they love my eyes. I've also gotten "Are you a model?" more than a few times, yet I find it extremely difficult to get a date at this point in my life. I think everything will get easier for me once I get my financial and living situation in order, but right now I have rock bottom self esteem in my ability to get a girl. 😂 I've had 3 girlfriends in my life, but I'd say it's never been easy. First I met in high school and started dating when I was in college. 2nd I met a a family baby gender reveal. And third I met on Bumble, but let me tell you that was after many years of trying dating apps. Dating apps are worthless.
I've had lots of problems as an average or good looking dude, due to personality or my neurotic mind. Overthinking, being needlessly nervous and typically not very charming when it counts.
But I've seen and I know people who are not at all very gook looking, actually kinds of ugly and obese, they can still go out with hot girls and have plenty of action going out. Just because of their charming personality, upbeat energy and confidence.
My prime example that I have in mind, turns out to be a downright asshole underneath, probably has major issues too but he's still a great example of how the surface is just the surface and if you've got the balls and the mind to think you've got value while seeming open and respectful.. you can go far. No need to be a douchbag or a badboy. Just get in there and be positive, be a boon in their company. Don't even chase, just be causual if a bit energitic.
The mindset is everything.
Generally agree, with the caveat that a very attractive but shy and/or insecure man will still have difficulty. Men are still almost universally expected to make the first several moves. Some women expect men to initiate every interaction. It doesn’t matter how good looking you are if you can’t get over the hurdles of introducing yourself and risking rejection repeatedly. Especially when so many women think that their thoughts and fantasies are flirting. Ladies, you are not making it clear when you like a man. That’s why only the insensitive clods approach you. You’re also not so good at making it clear when you don’t. That’s why they never stop. That’s also why nice guys hover but never make a move. They think you actually like those insensitive clods because you never really indicate otherwise.
Disagree on this one, there is a bunch of other stuff that comes into this including personality, shyness, confidence, then there is the fact that some people make assumptions about say a girl that is drop dead gorgeous, totally hot and don’t ask as they assume she’s taken would automatically reject them, however the girl is upset because no one ever asks her.
i would want to know a little bit more about the person before asking them on a date, they may not even speak the same language as me, they may be a lesbian, they may have a terrible accent, if she’s got a heavy brum or Black Country accent, there is a very slim chance I would date her even if she’s fully hot.
True. But attractive people don't necessarily have better luck in relationships. First dates? Definitely. But relationships? Not moreso than the average person.
Relationships are more about personality, compatibility and other factors. Attraction is important in the initial stages.
Also, attractive people tend to date other attractive people. That makes their pool of options smaller at times. So it leads to them being more picky about actually being with someone.
All the women will disagree, yet all those women blindly rushed right to Ted Bundy, getting his car even... no questions asked. And when you say something one disagrees with... the INSTANT reply is something about you having probable... deformities. "Fat, old, balding, whacks off in your basement, etc) Hmm... seems like looks are THE number 1 thing from the outset they focus on, no matter what they "say." 😏A lot of guys do too, don't get me wrong. They're just no. adamant as to deny it every step they take.
Just because someone is perceived to be attractive does not make them automatically dateable.
They can be a horrible angry shrew, narcissistic, stuck up, the world owes them everything kind of person that you would not want to spend 5 minutes with.
Or they can have a great personality and are fun to be with.
I think that's generally true unless you are some kind of creep or have a severe personality flaw.
The problem for a physically attractive person isn't finding opportunities for relationships, it's finding someone worthy of having the relationship with.
It's not just about looks.
If you're awkward, shy, had bad experiences, depressed or just not in the right time at the right place, then it's tough to get some.
For a girl yes. For a guy yes, UNLESS you are neurodivergent…in which case you’d have to find a woman who is comfortable making the first move, and then somehow not turn her off before the date by saying or doing something weird (story of my life, though I’m short thus not conventionally attractive anyway)
GRRRRR.
@Caroline91 lol I’m mostly being facetious but admittedly it is more difficult when you aren’t neurotypical
Except that you are so damn cute and that picture doesn't show it.
@Caroline91 I’m not average looking lol?
You KNOW better!
I dare you to put up a better picture...
There is an old saying:
"The prettiest girl doesn't get asked to the prom".
That is so true because they are so pretty, guys think that she is too good for him. They are intimidated.
I disagree.
it all comes down Confidence, Yes being Attractive helps but if a Guy doesn't have Confidence or gets help from someone with Confidence nothing is going to happen.
I have been told im Attractive a few timesbut im still single because i dont have enough Confidence to Approach a Girl that's exactly why I'm still single.
True. If you have the physical je ne sais quoi you naturally get attention... and invitations. But it's up to a person to have EQ and other levels of appeal to be able to keep the person's interest for date 2ff.
Disagree. Look over here 👀👀👀🫣 I've not been asked out on a date once by any women, ever, so far so it's not to say that even decent women don't get picked up. They don't get picked up either lol 😞😆 or aloof
And I don't even look like I'm anything ugly or anything off-putting. I'm very plain lol 🍦 that's it lol 😆😆😆
No weight either, fit as a below average man, aka fit
Not entirely true. I think I look good (physically) as some girls may have suggested in the past. But I am kinda shy, nerdy, and bookish guy with mostly indoor hobbies like reading, cooking, and crafting. Not-so-attractive guys with very outgoing personalities get way more girls and most girls don't like someone like me.
I'm not attractive, it's clear and I don't want to be too, because of jealousy, street bullying
Yes, easily for first dates. No, not necessarily easy for relationships as it requires more emotional and time investment with compatibility.
No, this isn't necessarily the case. Other factors can, and do, come into play (like personality).
I absolutely agree with that. Attractive people are all taken. There's no such thing as being unlucky in love when you're attractive.
@Biancam13 Does she shoot down guys who are shorter? I'm 5'5'' and women make a big deal about being taller than me with heals on and though I say I don't give a shit.
@Biancam13 plenty of guys around 5'10" I think. Not as common for guys to be 5'5" like me, but then again pretty much every girl is 5'5"
@Biancam13 Your friend just needs to find a tall guy who's also a model.
@Biancam13 must be nice. I can't even get a girl to come back to my house 😒
@Biancam13 Well then she will find a guy who will want to date her.
Conventionally it is like that. Not only that but people sometimes laugh at their unfunny jokes but only because they are physically and/or sexually attractive.
Of course. This applies to nature as well, no peahen wants a peacock with just 8 feathers.
I’d say that the odds are more in your favour but attraction is based on more than a pretty face
I agree. If I was single I could go on dates every week but just because I have options doesn't mean those options are good for me or my type.
Looks might make up for 5% to 10% of any lasting attraction.
I’m a very good looking and usually have girls throwing themselves at me. But usually most of them would vanish after seeing me naked. 🤏🏽
Being attractive might get you a date and maybe a blowjob at the end of the date, but only your personality will get you a second date.
my personality has gotten me second, third and fourth dates but no blowjobs
@debtfree_oneyear i said "being attractive" might get you a blowjob
Disagree. Having ridiculous standards is what makes it hard to get a date.
I don't usually have a problem landing a date on dating apps, my problem is they lose interest after 2 or 3 dates.
I would agree because if you're really attractive of course your not going to struggle getting dates. where as an unattractive person. like myself. could be waiting their whole entire life and even then not find some one. hope this helps
Definitely agree.
If you have at least average looks, the real determiner is how well you can build attraction.
Higher chance than a not so good looking or average person
You need both looks and personality, looks are part of it but not everything.
In biological point of view beauty=health=good match for make a kid. Humans are animals, and instincts overrule all other things.
I’m a relatively attractive man and I haven’t had a relationship in 9 years 🤷🏻♂️
u I never had a problem dating
Of course agree 100% , its pretty obvious.
Agree. I go on lots of first dates.
Yup literally no effort
Yeah , at least the first date..
I must be ugly then.
Sure. Attraction often starts at physical.
"Someone" being the key word.
U might need $, first.
It deffo helps lol
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