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I’ve been with this guy for 7 years now on and off. We had just got back together and things were going fine. We are both senior execs in different companies so he knows I travel a lot for work. It was my birthday and I had to be in NY for a business gala thing. A guy friend of mine who I’ve talked to once in the past but who I realized I wasn’t interested in messaged me happy birthday and wanted to hang out. I let my guy know everything and asked if he was comfortable with me meeting up with him and that it was fine either way. He said for me to do what I thought was best but then ignored me. I ended up meeting up for dinner with him but took a friend with me to buffer. I was dressed apropriately and didn’t flirt but he messaged the next day and wanted to come to my room etc but I said no. When my guy finally stopped ignoring me, we got back to normal and he said he’d just been busy and asked how it went. I told him what happened and suddenly it went 0-100. He said he knew I’d meet up with my friend and that I likely did something for him to proposition me. He said I kept wasting my time on people like that and called me a whore and lemon car.. he also said he figured that guy would slip something in my drink or that I’d eff my friend and he kind of hoped it happened so he could confirm I was defective. He laughed and said at least now he knew he would never marry me. He was incredibly cruel and said everything to try and hurt me. He has never called me a whore before but he has said slut once in the past when he got jealous. Is this justified? Did I do something that horrible? Is this normal? Sorry, just really upset and trying to make sense of it all.