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You know the saying the good ones are already taken? The good looking ones always are, does that mean I’m not one of the good ones? This post comes across as very defeatist but I’m just being blunt, I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years. I’ve become more and more inactive, I can’t tell if I’m uninterested or burnt out. Getting matches have never been the issue, it’s just working out. I’ve never been approached by the kind of guy I’d actually date, people tell me that guys look at me but they never do anything about it. The ones that do aren’t the types of guys you’d want, don’t want to overthink it either but I have a very low sex drive. I don’t socialize so the apps are the only way, I don’t want kids & think it’s time to come to terms with this. My mom said this a while ago, “if you choose to be single your whole life that was your choice”. That was a bit insensitive & ignorant

My boyfriend and have been arguing non-stop because of a problem we didn't get through the first time we started dating. The first time we started he would say rude and insensitive things to me usually after hanging out with friends or going to a party. Usually at these he would drink or smoke weed a lot and turn verbally violent. Even after addressing it with him he brushed me off, until one time he stopped for a month and then continued his problem. Over the summer we broke up and stopped talking completely, but after the summer we were forced to spend time together which rekindled old feelings even though I was kinda moving on. Long story short we ended getting back together and he is showing old patterns. Last week, we got in a argument when he made a insensitive joke to my friend when she was talking about getting a girlfriend (he didn't know he was a lesbian.) He said something on the lines of "I guess men weren't good enough for you and I should keep you away from my girlfriend then". My friend looked super uncomfortable and decided to leave, after she left he said it was a joke and that she's to sensitive. Last reason I think I should break up with him is because after the argument about my friend he started bringing up trans people and about how people being gay was okay but being transgender was inhumane. After every argument he continues to say he loves me and he is so grateful to have me in his life. So should I break up with him?

So I posted a photo of me on insta, it wasn’t sexual or anything. It’s just an “artsy” pic of me looking away from the camera, fully clothed (no skin showing whatsoever bcs I’m wearing a coat), with trees and leaves as the background. Then some guy that I know, that I have 0 history or chemistry with, commented “beautiful!”. I always reply to comments or at least give them a like, and since I don’t know him that well I just decided to “like” the comment and leave it as it is.

My boyfriend saw it and he flipped out. I understand that he might be uncomfortable with it but he started accusing me of flirting back with him, he said that I’m opening the doors to infidelity and that now he thinks that I flirt around with guys online (and offline). He started making all kinds of negative assumptions about me and even brought up my pasts (with my exes and all, which is all irrelevant…)

All I did was like a comment, I never talked to him not even in the DMs so I thought it was just a harmless comment. Is he overreacting or am I being insensitive?