Am I right to be annoyed?

[Anonymous]

My grandmother sent me some sweets/chocolates from home (I live abroad). My boyfriend’s colleague came over with his two kids while I was out and he gave them the sweets from my grandmother to munch on. I got back a while after and didn’t realise what they were eating. Only after when I was picking up the rubbish did I notice that they’d eaten all of them. I was a bit annoyed but hid my disappointment because I didn’t want to look stupid in front of guests. Later on though I couldn’t help feeling sad because my Nan always puts thought into what she sends me and even puts handwritten notes in the package too. I feel guilty because someone else chowed down on the chocolates she sent for her granddaughter to enjoy. I feel sad and annoyed too because someone else ate all of something without thinking about the meaning behind them (I cherish anything my grabdmother send me because you never know how much longer they’ll be around for). So anyway I told my boyfriend how disappointed I am that he just let the kids have the chocolates that meant so much to me and he basically said ‘It’s just chocolate, you can order more’. He didn’t seem to get the point that they weren’t just candy to me, they were a special gift from a special relative. And he seemed to basically say ‘well you’re being childish and I didn’t know they were from your Gran’ (even though he was there when I opened the package from my Nan). Soo yeah … am I overreacting or is he being insensitive? In my heart I feel like he’s being insensitive.

[Summeroflove]

You gave it to them. If you feel a certain way. Tell them. I would get over it. The rude part is then making you clean their mess.


Just tell people boundaries. Yeah people shouldn’t eat all of something you give them. But hey. At least your grandmother makes good food lol.


I understand you’re upset. But I think you’ll get over it. Just tell them next time. Don’t eat them all. Or only set out a limited amount

[Asker]

I didn’t give them out, my boyfriend did. I wasn’t even there. when he did it. So this is a lesson for him I guess!

[Summeroflove]

Ohhhhh…. Yeah he probably shouldn’t have took it upon himself to do that. You should tell him not to do it next time.

[Summeroflove]

Yeah I would be annoyed too. Sorry I misunderstood. He shouldn’t have done that. I get he might have been trying to be nice but.

They were not really his to give.

[Guy13]

My Mom would beat some sense into them then My Dad would have strapped a lasting memory on top of that. They would never do that again...