Search Results: its hard to find a good man

Not too long ago I went on date for the hell of it with a young woman I had very little physical attraction for. But I treated her well, bought her drinks, engaged in a good conversation and even drove her back to her place.

After some discussion she made a very insulting comment about my haircut a few moments after I dropped her off. Taken aback and pissed off I just said “well fuck you & have a good night” and left. I did nothing to provoke her. I didn’t hit on her.

The next day I sent her a DM saying “that haircut comment was mean”. She responded “you know what you are completely right. You did absolutely nothing to deserve it. I don’t know what the hell is wrong with me”. She then proceeded to literally beg to me (not exaggerating) to go on a second date. She kept going off on how cute I was & everything else.

I told her I felt better that she apologized but I declined. I wished her the best.

I later asked myself (and should have asked her) would she have apologized if she did not find me attractive? I highly doubt it. Her apology wasn’t truly genuine because there was still something in it for her.

The world isn’t fair. It’s obviously easier to mistreat people who are of little or no value to you. It’s like seeing a homeless person. There is virtually nothing they can do for you (and they can be annoying or even dangerous). But would you do something nice for them and do it discreetly (not for optics)?

It is just in my experience especially with dating is that women have a harder time respecting men they don’t find value in.

To a limited extent I can understand they don’t want to give the guy the wrong idea. But once a woman determines a man is of little use to her she feels like it’s okay to disrespect him much more then vice versa

I have been in the reverse position a few times. I won’t bend over backwards for those women. But I won’t ghost or disrespect them either. I will politely turn them down.

Don't be the boring ass and say "good people". Both genders complain that they can't find good persons to date. I have seen the complaints rise with age. But on average which are harder to find !

Maybe,

Men find it hard to date good women when they are young.

Women find it harder to find a good guy as they age.

A few nights ago I had a good conversation with a Uber driver on my ride home after listening to some live Christmas music downtown. I honestly was depressed I couldn’t find a girl to go with me. But it’s a personal tradition to listen to Christmas jazz. I am glad I went anyway

Anyway about the conversation. The Uber driver was a younger guy in his 20s who used to run a contractor business but it went under during covid and he drives Ubers full time. He told me he completely given up on dating and doesn’t use social media or dating apps. He has been single for 4 years. He wasn’t some overweight slob either. Not a trouble maker. Decent looking young light skinned African American man. Seems like some girl would appreciate him but he quit.

Anyway we both shared experiences about how we both once out in a lot of effort into dating that was very under-appreciated by women and then quit. There was a study done that over 60% of men under 30 are single now.

However most young women who answered this survey claimed to not be single. Either they are (or a combination of) 1) dating older men 2) in causal relationship they claim “is a relationship” when the man feels differently 3) not in a relationship at all but lying about (virtual “relationships” are complete bs)

Anyway let’s forget about men for a second. How are young women dealing with all of this? They are supposed to be more “free and empowered” but are they really happy in modern times? Statistically young women are reporting very high rates of depression:

https://www.wfxrtv.com/news/health/depression-rates-skyrocket-women-and-young-adults-hit-hardest-gallup-poll/amp/

https://www.statista.com/statistics/252323/major-depressive-episode-among-us-youths-by-gender-since-2004/

My theory is young women have been indoctrinated in a lot of modern feminism brainwashing that brings them a lot of short term benefits but long term misery.