Why do women who have bad relationships always put all men in the same basket and hate men?

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Honestly I have seen more and more women who have come from broken relationships and then come back and say "All men this", "All men that" etc... I really feel sorry for those girls and wish that they had the audacity to see the bad men from the good men. Who do you blame the girl would love's abusive men or the girl who keeps going back to abusive men?

Have you considered that the man was good but you the "Woman" who was causing all the issue's in the first place and don't want to take responsibility for your actions so all you do is find an excuse to bad mouth all men and lump them all in one basket. Pretty pathetic if you ask me. Lots of good women out there but in todays world it's harder and harder to find equal ground.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Most men do this as well , bottom line is once you have your heart broken by someone you thought loved you and cared about you that you gave your to , to find out they betrayed you or gave up on you , it can destroy your outlook of the opposite gender and make it harder for you to trust the opposite gender again, especially if you feel you did nothing wrong to that person to betray you like they did and give up on you like they did , it sometimes takes that person a very long time to trust the opposite sex again , it mainly stems down from someone’s experiences with the opposite gender , So if your ex cheated on you or left you for someone else , it pretty much fucks you up to the point you put walls up protecting your heart from experiencing that again. When my ex cheated on me that I gave my heart completely to it fucked me up that she betrayed me like she did, I was devastated , sad, and angry , I felt so depressed at that time that I no longer trusted girls’ I felt like every girl was a selfish cheating whore that’s how hurt I was inside , I literally gave up on looking for love for quite sometime, mainly
because of that reason , my whole out look on love and relationships changed because now it was harder for me to trust. So if you meet someone that had their heart broken that person is more than likely going to have a lot of walls up protecting their heart , it isn’t going to be easy for them to take those walls down , so if you are interested in someone that had their heart broken you will have a lot of walls to climb for them to trust you and for them to give you their full heart again.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

You could call them misandrists, but I make it more complicated than that. I compare it to the average racist... they have a bad experience here and there and then boom, instead of keeping it to those particular individuals, it will get explained away with the same shit you'd use to describe someone that just robbed you to the police. So basically if it was a man... all men (in their minds). They stopped viewing it as that individual and then generalize it to a bunch of people that didn't do shit to them. ... they sure as shit don't sit down and ask themselves why they've included those particular individuals in their life (or haven't avoided them). With that said...

They're not deep thinkers (Not all women, but just the ones that generalize like that). All humans seek pleasure and avoid pain in their own ways... so I don't blame them on the human level. I blame them on making generalizations though if they're not speaking in general terms. Like, don't tell me I'm this or that... just because you fuck around with dudes like that and would bite your thumb when I'm around. I'm not him or that guy... I'm an individual. I shouldn't be judged based on the actions of the dudes she chooses to have around or give the time of day to. That's a her (or "you") problem and not a me problem.

Lady_Heart · Accepted Answer

I came out of bad relationship and i don't think all men are like that despite seeing many men who fall under that category. But that percentage of good men is very small, same as women nowdays keeps dropping.

Most of the time past relationships are the one ruining good men and women, which is sad because its not worth changing your views and behavior based on one or more ungrateful bastards or bitches. Take it as a lesson to chose better next time.

EmyyWolf · Accepted Answer

Men do that too. Just look at  Fresh&Fit  . The penguin face MF, always goes “Women, etc etc etc”. Like saying we’re all a certain type of way.

lightbulb27 · Answer

that's a human thing. being "more emotional"... it's a self defense mechanism. if there is no good reference, then it's easy to determine.  It's work to change...

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I think most individuals tend to put labels on situations which become a recurring theme, or instance in their lives.

if a woman has several bad relationships, or even dates with different guys, she may decide all men belong in that unappealing group.

catarecute · Answer

its call repetition theory. if something is repeated over and over again in the same way that harms someone the brain will associate the common things with the situation to protect the person. so if a woman has mainly bad situation involving men that hurt her her brain will create a protection mechanism associated with men.

its basic psychology

kylee2437 · Answer

I will definitely not put all men in the same basket but there’s definitely a small percentage of men that have good intentions while dating. I say it’s a 80% bad intentions and 20% good intentions split, and that’s just reality sorry to say. A lot of men get their hearts broken at very young ages and carry that onto women that they are dating years and years and years later and treat her like she’s the girl that hurt him in the first place.

Billlewis · Answer

I think it's unrealistic to expect women, collectively, to forget about several hundred years of disenfranchisement and subjugation just because many guys are in frantic need of physical intimacy. If I were in their position, I'd be a pretty tough customer too. Grin and bear it -- what comes around goes around. It's not as if sex isn't available; it just requires more effort than it used to. The price has gone up. Pay it or masturbate.

Anonymous · Answer

To any girl reading this you have to watch these two YouTube shorts ….

https://www.youtube.com/embed/XnG-NqAyroI https://www.youtube.com/embed/ta-jRavV1Qo

There’s another video i would upload but I can’t find it but this female psychologist basically says, women who are so used to toxic relationships will push away a man or a guy showing genuine love. That a woman used to that type of abuse will just go back to what she’s used to the abusive, narcissistic man or guy. And yes, even as a guy myself I’ll take accountability for my screw ups and things I should rectify.

Anonymous · Answer

Because all men are essentially the same. I only use them for money nowadays. Men are so desperate that the tables have turned. Now men are the weaker sex and simp over women. I have hundreds of guys in my inbox and if I replied to any one of them, he would come crawling at my door ready to buy me food or whatever I want.

DextroShade · Answer

These broken women choose the worst men and assume all men are like that. Instead of getting with one of the vast majority of decent regular guys who wouldn't abuse her they call those guys boring and get with the guys who have criminal records, neck tattoos, and multiple baby mommas. They accumulate damage and baggage and make themselves unfit for serious relationships or marriage and only have themselves to blame.

Anonymous · Answer

[Have you considered that the man was good but you the "Woman" who was causing all the issue's in the first place and don't want to take responsibility for your actions so all you do is find an excuse to bad mouth all men and lump them all in one basket]

when a low quality man tries to blames the woman for everything..

aceleon · Answer

i don't want to look like i'm defending them but we do this to dude, but now i don't think all peoples are different/special, there is basic guy and female traits and we certainly don't like many of them at each other.

LazerBean · Answer

Because they don't want to take responsibility for their own poor choices. Just like men who say thinks like that about women don't like to take responsibility for their own poor choices

Anonymous · Answer

"Why do women who have bad relationships "ALWAYS" put all men in the same basket and hate men?"

There is some irony here for sure. But yeah, a lot of women do that. It's the gateway drug to feminism. A lot of men do it too, and it's the gateway drug to Red Pill / MGTOW.

VanityFair888 · Answer

I think the pattern repeats so often that they start to think that if that many men are trash, then all men must be trash.  Majority of men are trash though, can't deny.

LiamJHayden · Answer

A lot of people, women and men, have collectivist mindsets. Broad brushing people as part of a group makes it easier for them than it would be to actually engage people as the unique individuals that they are.

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Most of the men having bad experiences also use generalisation. I think it's more a human thing than gender.

glennos89 · Answer

A lot of the woman that blame all the men in the same basket, are most likely the ones that have a shallow thought process and they lack the capability to do some honest self reflection

A_Bell · Answer

Collectivism is so tiresome. We aren't components of a group, we're individuals. All women don't always do anything.

RainbowMarinade · Answer

If you believe it’s only women who do things like this, you are willfully ignorant.  You should do something about that.

syncheart · Answer

I've had a lot of negative experiences with women. I'm guessing that when one has enough bad experiences you become more and more tempted to throw the whole gender out the window.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

They're just going by their experiences. They're expressing feelings of frustration about their love lives. Emotions aren't always the most rational things.

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