Because men call women who are assertive and confident too masculine or accuse them of taking the lead. Women are constantly shamed for being too loud, taking up too much space, for how they look, what profession they chose, and who they are, for trying to hard or not hard enough...
Fathers, grandfathers, uncles, and brothers constantly warn their younger female relatives about men then complain when women are suspicious. Women are taught to cover up to protect themselves as if it's their fault they got assaulted because they are female. You're complaining that women are too passive, yet we can't reject someone with out fearing for our safety, or walk down the street with out a fear of getting cat called, or drink with out being cautious of having your drink spiked.
The message that woman are somehow responsible for the abuse they experience, comparing human being with objects and then telling them that boys will be boys...
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Not true, I see many women be the bold forthcoming ones when trying to pursue a relationship.
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Yeah that’s the nature of males and females. Masculine energy vs feminine energy. That’s how it works. Not only with humans but with many different types of animals too. The male is the one that needs to show off their feathers, the nest they built, the stone they found or whatever to be picked by a female or they need to be assertive and confident, possibly even literally fight others males, and win a female that way, depending on species. Males need to prove themselves worthy, females pick. A bit exaggerated of course (males also pick to an extent, especially when it comes to humans) but that’s the general basis of it and it has to do with the fact that the offspring of females who were passive and picky about who they mated/partnered with did better than the females who weren’t. The picky female’s offspring went on to have offspring themselves to a higher extent than the offspring of non picky females, and the pickiness trait were passed on this way during the evolutionary process and here we are. Males didn’t need to be as picky since they could have an unlimited amount of offspring (theoretically) and so some of those were bound to go on to reproduce. Since females (in general, especially humans) can have a very limited amount of offspring and also invest a lot more (pregnancy, birth, nursing or bringing up the babies which during the whole time she is/were in history more vulnerable to predetors and death) it’s very important that the offspring she does have are healthy, strong and go on to reproduce in the future or else that females genetic line dies out, and that’s were the pickiness comes in - it made sure her offspring were of as good quality as possible to make it more likely they survive until they reproduce themselves. Quality is important in a female’s mate because quantity isn’t an option for her. Quality isn’t as important for a male’s mate because quantity is an option for him. This is all when it comes to mating/having babies of course but that’s what this is all about - we’re animals, and nature doesn’t care that you have no intention to have kids or that the society doesn’t still look like it did when we were cave people. So yeah, a male needs to prove himself worthy to be picked as a mate/partner. Not that women literally think about this in their everyday dating life but it’s in our instincts and natural behaviour. It is likewise in males instincts and natural behaviour to be more assertive and less passive (those traits were rewarded for males the same way pickiness and passiveness were rewarded for females).
Women who are more passive are more feminine. Guys who want women to be aggressive are basically saying that they aren't very masculine so they need her to make up the difference.
Life is less frustrating if you stop taking everything women say seriously. Always judge what she says in terms of your own guiding principles and boundaries. Reject anything that goes against it. For traditional minded guys I've laid out some thoughts on that in MyTakes like Being A Better Man & Being a Better Man, Part 2 and for the traditional female Characteristics of a LadyBefore 1922, physical strength were needed to put food on the table. Hence men has the advantage over women.
Society was thus formed recognizing strength, gender, which translates to male = leaders, breadwinner, and hence the one to lead even in courtship.
Time has changed. 2022 coming. I noticed "strong" (not in physical strength) women leading. In fact, more and more women are less passive and more active.
Yes, it may take another generation or more for real "equality". But for now, while traditional "man woo" social standard still prevail, more and more women are asking guys out.
I think this is a good progress.
Sex.
Yes. Women still claim that all guys want is sex. But I think they want sex too. We just need to understand each gender better and balance the "sex vs commitment" issue.Yet another complaint from. a man that somehow the world is unfair to men and it’s not his fault that he is unable t form a successful partnership. Sorry, pal, it’s on you. There’s nothing wrong with women in general, although to be sure some women, like some men, are best avoided.
I'm just passive person in general. Also I've asked guys for their number and tried to be assertive but they stopped putting in effort after awhile so I gave up. My friend (he's a guy) said guys like it better when they can make the first move bc it makes them feel in control so I just follow his advice
Well. I can assure you that this is clearly not the case for “all” women. To me, it just sounds like this person isn’t really interested nor invested in you. She could be talking to someone else on the side and they currently have her emotions and attention, and have you as the back up. You should try to figure out her her if his woman really likes you or not before making such a false generalization.
You are dating the wrong girls then or chasing after a specific type of girl.
Reevaluate the type of girl you are looking for.
Add in Confident, Independent and intelligent.
avoid passive girls.You might be dating the wrong woman if that's what you're looking for - I may not be the most confident girl, but I am definitely assertive! I'd try to expand your dating-world!
Because it was like that for millions of years. There's a difference between always ball-busting women vs feminine women. Ball-busting women are good wives but they don't make good mothers and feminine women are good mothers but they hardly make exciting wives. The number of ball-busting women rose after the first wave of feminism just 100 years ago.
I've heard that girls have a lot more confidence if they at least APPEAR to have bigger tits so, either they should be the assertive ones or guys should try growing their tits.
I don't know - The only comment I'll make is that I have balls of steel so I also don't care
Too many think all they have to do is show up and not do shit.
Men? Assertive? Hahahahahahaha no they’re not. They never know what they want ! 😂😂😂😂
what if the roles were reversed... 🥲. Cause I'm familiar with that feeling.
Because the sexual marketplace is rigged in their favour and they take their men for granted. All they can offer is a vagina and a cute face. That's their only talent which is not a talent at all.
Because we let them. No matter what you were I do, there will be an army of simps to validate whatever they think.
That's true and then they say men can't understand women, like bitch do you even want to be understood
Because no one likes to take the risk and women get what they want.
that's what they like
most women, other than the select few, prefer to be the sub.I think because women like to be chased.
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