Be sure to read Being a Better Man, Part 1
Being a Better Man, Part 2
A better man is always aiming for success and never surrenders.
As a better man, every word you speak is as valuable as a promise you make. You will not say anything you have not carefully thought about before or if you haven't thought first, you will clearly state that you have not.
He eventually realizes that his body is as important as his words. Every action he takes should be consistent with his goals and beliefs. As a better man, ideally, how you live your life should be in sync with your life mission. You will eliminate things that conflict from that and add things that support it. This isn't something that happens overnight for most people. It's a process like polishing metal or building a house but it all starts with a solid foundation.
He is open to learning new things from anyone as long as that person is honest. Being honest means that they will admit when they are wrong and accept new evidence also. If they show themselves to be dishonest then they can be ignored.
He realizes that many people are complicated. He will listen (when possible) to the individual and try to understand/know them based on their words rather than assuming he knows everything they think based on political/social labels.
A better man does not believe that someone else's feelings are more important than his own. He also knows that feelings can easily lead to bad decisions and chaos. He understands that they are unreliable and hard to predict. The reason why he can make a promise and keep it is because he follows a code that guides his actions instead of feelings. This code represents justice in his mind. He applies the same standards to others as he does to himself.
The better man does not attack innocent people either with words or weapons.
"What you do not wish upon yourself, extend not to others." -- Confucius (ca. 551–479 BCE)
"Neither to harm, nor be harmed."-- Epicurus (c. 350 BCE)
"Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” -- Jesus
Just as he does not start unprovoked physical fights, he won't attack someone with words. But he may use words to help others: 1. just as a doctor can use a knife and cut a person to help them, the better man understands how careful use of harsh words/shocking statements can be used for good; 2. As a hero uses a weapon to protect innocent people from an attacker. He uses words like tools with a constructive goal in mind.
A better man is not a tool to be used by fake victims and other manipulators. He will not leap to defend someone simply because they claim to be a victim. He analyses the situation and considers evidence. He knows that if the person claiming to be a victim started something then it's just justice if they get harmed by the person they attacked.
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