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I have to ask as there’s this stupid shit of situationship and friends with benefits thats popular and guys don’t want a girlfriend and just act like it but say they are single that’s why I need ask this question 😓

we spent 3 days together at his place , not much sex at all, but mostly seeing movies, talking, eating , cuddling , massaging , driving to stores , we have had one date so far as it’s barely 2nd weekend of meeting.
now we r meeting weekly at his place sleeping together in his bed at night. Then breakfast and get ready wake up together next day.

maybe next week will be another date and I plan cook him something and bring it to him as we don’t live together yet but spending time on weekend only.

I agree because have you noticed a lot of the women here post things about sleeping with men on the first date, strange men they met online, exchanging nudes with strangers, and constantly say things that are sexualy for male attention?

Why is she a red flag:

1. She is being manipulative. Dont trust the "sure I'm down for friends with benefits." It's a lie. She likes you and feels if she does this, you will EVENTUALLY like her back. When you don't, she will get angry.

2. Sometimes, women have sex with you immediately because we don't like you , lol. Yes, it's true. You're sexually attractive, but we don't see you as a long-term partner, so we have sex with you to get you out of hair.

3. She's having sex with you to trap you. She thinks sex with you will make you stick around because she knows sex is hard to come by for a man. Men are constantly rejecting or fear rejection, so they won't bother approaching a woman. Instead, a man will pay for sexual services before he is faced with rejection. It's a blow to the ego.

4. If she's this easy with you, she's easy with everyone else. She's not a woman who has a back bone, she's a doormat, has low self-esteem, self-worth, and weak genetics that can get passed on to your child. Let's face it, this is a survival of the fittest world. You want a woman who will reject other men when not in your presence. Not one who gets weak at the knees for everyone, man, that gives he 1 strand of attention.

5. Last but not least.. Are you ready.. Studies have confirmed that ugly women are more likely to be cheaters than beautiful women. Beautiful women have high self esteem, self worth, and are used to being hit on by men, so rejecting men who are not of quality comes easy to a beautiful woman. Yet beautiful women get a bad rep from men and accused of cheating because men often throw themselves at her.

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So Im in my freshman year of college and I met this guy who i befriended with that we also hungout everyday whether alone or with friends. So, within the three months of fall semester, him and I got really close. Im not one who likes when people invade my space or touch me but I was comfortable with him. We always would talk in groups about how we're both not ready to date and how the timing for dating people is important. Basically during these we were ignoring how each of us felt or possibly felt. I often made the mistake of starting the conversation because that was how i truly felt at the time so i would forget that he could possibly like me and he would just agree.

So we were friends, he would hold my hand as a joke and laugh but eventually it stopped being like a joke and he just held it and he would often brush my hair back behind my ear and always like to be near and subtlety touch me or always felt the need to be in my space. There was a time where we were waiting for our friend since she had a late class in the evening so him and i sat on the bench and talked for a bit and when i looked over to him he was giving me these eyes and leaned in for a kiss and i was stunned but then my friend walked and saw us asking what we were doing.

A month later i saw on his snapchat story that a bee was flying around him and I replied to his story saying, "They love you." and then he proceeded to respond saying that he loved me. This is my first time ever being told I love you so i pretended i didn't see it and talked about something else. I was scared that he was just joking around again. The whole time this situationship was happening I was unsure of how I felt about him since he definitely didn't fit my boyfriend standards since he was quite selfish and immature which is the complete opposite of what I look for in a man. I dont talk to him anymore since we got into an argument, he told me he loved me but left when things got bad, is it possible he liked me that way?