Told im handsome, female friends say my profiles look good, but I get maybe 3-5 matches a YEAR across 3 apps for dating, ate they really harsh on men?

[Anonymous]

29, 5’10. Often called handsone or cure etc. even here mostly rated a 7 with a few saying 8-9 etc. occasionally a 6. I am selective, only attracted to slim women with cute faces so I’m not like guys who just swipe right all the time (proud of that too, I’m looking for a girl I’m actually attracted to not just someone for a night)
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But so few in a year baffles me. And of course, 2/3 didn’t respond. One solid date but she wasn’t ready to be back out there seriously after splitting from her ex.

Anyway are these apps really just that bad for men?

[DreamCrescent]

I wonder if your profile is interesting and you’ve written something about yourself. It’s not all just on looks
That being said, mak sure you’re not using bathroom selfies or anything like that


Because i see what you’re saying, 3 sites…it’s gotta amount to something


I have to say, though. Dating sites are expensive. abut the free version doesn’t get you anywhere. Maybe sign up for the 7 day demo and cancel before they charge your card. i think the full version gives you a leg up



And i agree with you, please only swipe right on people you’re attracted to.

[Asker]

Well read up on it.. sounds like men really do get shafted on these sites. For example the one date was with a cute girl but no model. Just in good shape with a cute face. She had 5,000 likes in a month on tinder she said. I’ve had 50 likes in a year. The stats are just against men it seems.

I wrote about my time skydiving, music taste, how I am a romantic sap etc.

[DreamCrescent]

Good profile

i don’t know what shafted means lol.
it’s possible that there are a lot more women than men on dating apps. like a hundred-fold more and your 50:5000 ratio

in any case, women definitely a lot more analytical. So although you are are exercising some discretion when swiping, i know i swipe right verrrrry rarely. it’s not the looks as you ask in your question

hang in there. and good luck. remember it’s really not about quantity. and remember there’s a certain level of pure luck out there

[Asker]

I swipe right on maybe 1/20 women.

Studies show there’s many more men than women

[Anonymous]

I really wish more guys would understand that the majority of the women on dating apps are just wondow shopping. Don't take it personal. I get that rejection IS personal but she's not rejecting you. She's rejecting her PERCEPTION of you. And you can't take personal someone who never took the time to really even know who you are or what you're about.

I would advise MOST guys not to message ANY woman on a dating app. Dating apps should be treated like the INVERSE of offline dating. You have to understand a lot of women who are dating are hostile to begin with. Most women do not like online dating and have chip on their shoulder that she has "resorted" to this. That's a recipe for toxicity that YOU as a guy are not fixing. So why expend countless efforts and put your self esteem through a meat grinder. I'll tell you from experience. The women who are TRULY interested WILL message you.

[Asker]

Then I’d have nothing to show from these apps after years if I did that.

[Opinion Owner]

And what do you have now?

[Asker]

At least a date to speak of? I get done likes from women in not attracted to. But that’s it.

[spartan55]

Why the fuck would anyone in their 20s even need OLD... so pathetic.

[jamesgoldman]

MeToo laws killed conventional dating stone dead

I'm asexual so get to laugh watch the desperate suffer

[spartan55]

Sorry, not buying it. MeToo hasn't destroyed dating completely.

[jamesgoldman]

All by design of the elites seeking to thin out the population by any means necessary

[Asker]

As a guy who doesn’t enjoy the bars and is selective, I don’t know what reliable venues you have. I’d prefer to meet in person too but of the multiple groups I’m in no attractive women are single. A church group could have 50 women my age or younger but I’m attracted to maybe 5-10 of them, then maybe 1/3 are single. And so if those 1/2 don’t reciprocate it’s out.

[jennifer_bloom]

Are you only chasing the popular girls? If you downgrade your superficial demands by 1-2 points, you might get 20 times more matches. Not judging, any body who downgrades will have more options.

[Anonymous]

Told you are handsome, lol.

You know people lie to make you feel better, right?

[Asker]

Anonymous peoole on an anonymous poll where 80% rated me 7+? No those anonymous folks aren’t being polite.

These aren’t my family or friends. I’m in shape, habd a good face and strong jaw etc.

[Asker]

Infact studies about internet interaction typically show people are much more negative than normal online, not kind.

Seems like this common for men

[Anonymous]

Your therapy isn't working I see. Keep your blowup doll inflated.

[Asker]

? I am in therapy dear, as I think everyone should be fairly regularly. So unsure what your dig there is. But also just a little confused since your response isn’t even seemingly in response to anything said here?

[Asker]

And if your therapist is telling you to not habd standards dating then I really think you need to reevaluate who you’re speaking to

[Asker]

You sound very bitter lady lol.

Yes, men can have standards believe it or not.