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There's this one lady I dated over 2 years ago for about a month and a half. We went on 6 dates, then she decided that she didn't feel the magic with me and just wanted to be friends. Fast forward to today, we've remained friends and had a healthy friendship. She's dated a few other guys, and even had one other time she dumped one other guy for the same reason she did with me. Some other relationships she had didn't turn out well though to say the least. She has some cryptic things to me, like how I told her I'm going to Hawaii next year for my friends wedding and then she told me she wants to go with me. Not to the wedding itself, just to Hawaii. I think it'd be awkward if either of us are dating someone else at the time and she came with me. She also told me once if she was to date a friend, it'd be me. I believe she is a very honest person, and if she wanted to be with me again, she'd say so, but I'm not sure for certain. I'm not sure if I really want her back though. I respect her, sure, and I wasn't considering breaking up at the time, but I've also dated, albeit one date each, a few different women and had feelings for 2 other women since then. But unlike 3 of those women that I briefly dated, she didn't do anything to hurt me. She's proven she does care about me, and did try to help me with one of the women I had feelings for. (I learned without directly asking that one of those women was engaged, so that's not happening). Opinions and feelings can change, and for all I know, she doesn't regret breaking up with me, but I could be wrong. Some other people I talked to about it believe she made a mistake dumping me, but I never told her that. What do you think, if she does want to date me again, should I do it?

I’m 27, a vegan, and I’ve never had a serious long-term relationship. I’m a vegan because I grew up in a conservative Seventh-day Adventist (SDA) Christian household. Long, story short, SDAs, especially more conservative ones believe in a prophetess named Ellen G. White and she has a health message where she encourages believers to be vegan and not drink coffee. My parents imparted these ways on me. I’ve tried eating meat here and there, but it’s rarely tasted good or I’m slow at eating it.

The one short-term relationship that I’ve had was with a fellow vegan in the church, but on the 2nd date she ate my food and she never showed me any affection (we never held hands or kissed).

Other girls in the church either had more liberal parents that let them eat meat, or they want a guy that’s not in church, or they want some extremely long courtship process and have ridiculously high standards.

My parents projected a lot onto me growing up. They wanted me to be this superstar academically and stressed education. I never went to any SDA schools because my parents thought their education standards were too low. Part of me regrets not going to one because I feel like I could’ve met a girl who’d like me. But now at my church, there’s barely any girls.

When I look outside on dating apps like Hinge & Bumble, I rarely get matches and dates, but when I do it’s like they can sense something’s wrong with me. For instance, I went on a date with a girl and ordered a chicken pasta out of fear of being rejected for ordering something vegan. I didn’t finish it and she thought that was weird. She ghosted me after the date.

Even had a friend in church recommend her friend outside of church to me. We had a lot in common from liking the same basketball players and teams to traveling to different countries. But she said she doesn’t date any kind of vegetarian.

I feel so behind socially and hopeless. My parents say I’m suffering for Christ so it’s ok. I think that’s a load of crap.