Will my ex come back and regret his decision?

[unknown_51671]

I had been dating this guy for 6 years and he broke up with me last year and came back again in march. He’s a narcissist, he abused me both verbally and physically. He wouldn’t allow me to make guy friends or even wear clothes that i liked. This time now that he left he left by saying that all i “crave is guys attention” just because i study in a university and I literally have projects with guys so i can't avoid the interaction. He would talk shit about my body and that I dress only for other people to see me. Im honestly miserable he broke up with me starting of November and i tried to contact him because he blocked my number. I tried contacting him from different numbers and he would tell me to leave him the fuck alone and that he doesn’t love me anymore. Because of him i feel guilty every single day thinking that maybe i shouldn’t have talked to that guy or I should’nt have worn a certain outfit. Its the trauma bond thats making me miss him so much. He deleted all his social and told me that he did it so that he wouldn’t have to look at me and miss me and that it would be easier to move on. I honestly have no idea what to do. Its been 8 days since I've gone in no contact with him. I just want him to regret and come back so that i can show him what its like to beg someone you love and for them to treat you like you’re absolutely nothing. He has came back quite a couple of times and i feel like this time he won't.

[Finchie40]

Wake up girl , why would you want him back? He was controlling and abusive to you , don’t blame yourself for his insecurities , he didn’t trust you what so ever , why would you want to be with someone that doesn’t trust you that controls you? That isn’t love , that is manipulative control , he more than likely was projecting his own insecurities and selfish behavior on to you , blaming you for his own actions , trying to play a victim when really he was the Piece of shit. Do not chase him back be thankful he is out of
Your life if he truly loved you he wouldn’t have left you period , so don’t fall For that nonsense. For any relationship to last and for love to grow between 2 people, you both have to choose each other and stand by each others side , and trust each other , your ex didn’t trust you , Just because you talked to another guy at school it doest make you a cheater , just because you wore a cute outfit doesn’t make you a cheater , so stop blaming yourself for his insecurities, Now if you were flirting with other Guy’s and getting their numbers and talking to these guy’s on a regular basis then yes I can see why your boyfriend might be a little concerned but if you weren’t doing that what so ever then your boyfriend was an insecure control freak. So do yourself a favor and move on and find someone that values you like you value them. One thing I learned through the years when it comes to relationships, is wear your partners shoes the same way you want them wearing yours , that’s all we can do For love to grow both partners need to choose each other and make each other their top priority over everyone , it won’t always be perfect , so you fix what is broken , between you both , you don’t walk away like your ex did , when a partner walks away , all they care about is themselves, they don’t love and value you , so never chase someone to love you , we can’t force someone to love us , we can only treat them the same way we want to be treated in return , if they walk away , let them Go , Do yourself a favor and let him Go

[unknown_51671]

Thankyou this has honestly been really helpful!!

[Flatmanlewis]

Okay. The way I read this concerns me about your headspace. You describe a purely toxic relationship and what a POS they are but want them back and don’t know what to do.


First, erase any idea you can impact or connect with his life in any way. Let go. Move on. He is clearly damaged and needs to tend to his own insecurities.


Second, you need to repair your own sense of self worth and value. A man who is stable and self-actualized will be comfortable with you dressing however you want and being a woman capable of being friends with others, including males. Since half the people you ever meet will likely be male this is not an avoidable issue.


Third and most importantly: you should seek out healthy relationships and, in all likelihood, none for a little while. Meeting someone else when you haven’t processed the feelings you are having now is a kiss of death to a future relationship. Then that feeds into another and before you know it it’s a pattern.


My wife is both very, very, feminine in her style AND works in a male dominated field. It’s not a concern and I have zero concerns about her body, style, clothing, or how much male attention she may or may not attract. Why? Because we have a foundation of trust, love, mutual respect, honesty, and communication about limits and boundaries we can both agree on. You should explore this. Don’t let this immature boy-man get in your head and derail your dreams.

[Avicenna]

Why would you even want him back in your life? Block him and move on.

[boggboss]

Lol so u want to be a shitty person cos he treated u like shit nice I guess u totally didn't deserve it yet are willing to do what he did

[unknown_51671]

I dont wanna be a shitty person but i do want him to come back so that i can finally say no to him.

[boggboss]

Why thats so spiteful u want someone to crawl back to you so u can reject them instead of just moving on

[BoopBoopBeep]

You need a mountain of therapy. Please get help.

[ThrillSeeker01]

Doesn't sound that that you're going to get a lot of happiness from this. Thought of moving on?

[dudeinohio]

He is an abuser and you want him back. You need serious therapy.

[In_Trance]

Hopefully not