My ex boyfriend is asking for another chance? I don’t know what to do?

[Anonymous]

My ex boyfriend and I have been broken up for about 2 months now but have remained in communication since, because he can’t let me go. Even when we were broken up, we would get into some petty arguments because my boundaries would not be respected. I had asked for something mutual with him but he had always asked me to force to try a relationship with him. However, I felt as if my heart was never with him. He had treated me so well. By giving me flowers, or buying me food when I’m not hungry and being there for me. However, what had lost me was the fact that he was able to manipulate me, gaslight me, and hadn’t respected me when I had asked him too. I was more so blindsided by all the nice things he had done for me and how deeply in love he was with me. Every-time I try to break up with him, he would always try to come back to my life and promise he’d change. He’d always want me in his space and would get mad sometimes if I didn’t hang out with him or text him back. And that’s one thing I did not appreciate because he is unemployed and doesn’t understand a “busy” lifestyle, since he is at home all his time. He would always threaten to break up with me at times because he felt as if that’s the only way to draw me closer to him, and when I confronted him about that, he admitted to it; and I told him that’s selfish, and very toxic. Our whole relationship has caused me stress, to the point where it showed on my body. But he has treated me so well and I’ve never had a man who has loved me like he has; therefore, I do not know what to do about this situation. I am lost— he believes he deserves another chance, but I keep giving him chances every-time I want to break up with him that I am getting fed up. Because why is it that he always wants to act right when I am at my ultimate low? He keeps reassuring me that I am making the wrong decision and we will later regret not being with each other in the future, and he does not imagine a life without me..

[richardcory]

You wrote "Every-time I try to break up with him, he would always try to come back to my life and promise he’d change."

Sounds like you have given him more than one chance already, and he has still done those things.

Everything I see in your post makes me want to tell you that you deserve far better than this. He is using you.

I don't think you are happy when you are around him.

So, no - I strongly recommend that you do not give him another chance because you've already done that - many times I suspect

[Sunssong]

TMDR. (I know that's insensitive to say but I know what's happening without reading it)

All relationship problems come from not creating a conscious, joint vision for the relationship and or not remaining unwavering to that vision.

My guess is you and him never had one and you're probably not in harmony with each other because you're operating from 2 different unconscious visions. On top of that both of your character traits add fire to the flame probably.

If you want to be with each other:

• Create a conscious, joint vision
• Learn about the mind
• Learn about the paradigm
• Learn how to change
• Change into the people who would rightly fit in your vision

[kylee2437]

What is making you hold onto this man?

[Asker]

He allows me to be myself. Despite him not being my ideal partner physically, but I don’t think I’ve ever had a person who has cared for me as much as he has.

[kylee2437]

I think in situations like this, you need to outweigh the good and bad. Think about what you want out of life and see if what his life is about fits your life goals. Sometimes having someone by your side that lets you be yourself is more valuable than anything else. How you presented him what you want out of life future wise?

[all_hayl]

“He would always threaten to break up with me at times because he felt as if that’s the only way to draw me closer to him, and when I confronted him about that, he admitted to it; and I told him that’s selfish, and very toxic.”

Walk away. And don’t look back. Even if/when he tries to guilt-trip you, ignore him and walk away.

[spartan55]

The unemployed loser threatening to break up with you... now I've heard it all. 😂😂

[In_Trance]

Block him