What does the dumper feel when they end things with you, or ask for time from the relationship? My ex boyfriend recently just did this to me because he is really stressed and overwhelmed working at a startup business. I was totally blindsided. I asked if he cared to work through it once he got settled, and he said yes but I just overthink and get worried since we haven’t spoken for 2-3 weeks. We had so much fun together, our families loved us together, and everyone was asking/joking when we’d get married. We were together for 7-8 months before this, and I am having a hard time accepting, so I’m wondering what the dumper feels in the situation? I made it clear that I support and care about him also. Trying to give him the space he wanted, I’ve gone completely no contact, not even viewing his Snapchat stories, when he always views mine at least an hour after they’re posted. I do want us to have another chance together, but I’m going NC to protect myself. What could he be thinking and am I doing the right thing?
No one can give you the answer on how he feels. Only he can tell you, maybe check in with him say hello, I just wanted to check and see if you are doing ok? I was thinking about you! If you get one word responses keep it at that and give him his space, say something I’m glad your doing good, or I’m sorry if you need to talk I’m here for you! He might dive into a convo/ he might not! You should know him well enough to know his responses! He will at least know you still care, but are not bugging daily by giving him his space), and your leaving the door open to talk in the future! Just my opinion, don’t over do it with the calls and not to much on getting pushy answers from him. Keep it light and very infrequent! Good luck to you😊
It depends on the relationship and why they ended it
I've ended a relationship , and I've never given a second thought to the guy , because he was an asshole. I was well shot of him. I didn't feel terribly for ending it.
But I've also ended one and felt really guilty, because he was an ok guy, but I wasn't happy with him. I felt bad for him, but you can't stay with someone just because you feel guilty ending it. That would be unfair to both people
Usually very little I imagine. For the dumper that’s when the breakup process ends, they’ve been thinking about it and decide to end it then when they do that’s the last step and they move on with their lives.
For the dumpee, that’s when the breakup process starts and now they have to do it alone. Most people aren’t blindsided by it which means they’re a little more prepared.
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By the time I dump a chick, I've already talked to her at least three times about what's bothering me. If she hasn't gotten her shit together by then, I don't feel much at all for her.
But I'm "cold-hearted" like that.
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I had to break up with my ex because our relationship was emotionally draining. He wanted to make it work, but I just couldn't do it anymore. I felt very guilty at first [at times, I still do]. I cut off all contact with him, but I hope he's doing okay
For me it was lovesickness paired with the feeling of guilt due to hurting someone paired with doubts if I made the right choice. I was pretty much fighting with myself the whole time.
If I know I'm really hurting them and crushing their heart I feel really bad. I want them to meet someone right away fall in love with them so I don't feel so bad.
Well I've just split from my ex the other day and I feel shit but sometimes it's for the best as we were arguing all the time so it wasn't good it just depends on the reasons behind him dumping you
No idea. I'm assuming they don't feel much at all, otherwise they wouldn't dump their partner. Unless of course it was due to cheating or some other major violation by their partner.
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Anonymous
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Its VERY INTERESTING men and woman go through this oppositely. so first they - feel happy and relived - play the single life, download dating apps, clubbing - then he will feel empty and realise he messed up, he will call you, if you are desperate he will feel good about it and if you moved on he will feel like shit and will beg for you back.
Youtube “No contact rule to get your ex back” Shit will get him on his knees begging you.
Relief but they prob feel bad about it in some small form
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Anonymous
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Depends on how invested they were and the reason for the breakup. They would probably just feel bad if they weren’t really interested. If they were, they probably feel like they just banished you and might actually feel absolutely horrible.
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