I've been talking to this girl since February 2023, we haven't met yet. We are going to meet and I just want to know if I went to her favourite dessert spot outside of the city and brought it back for her before our first date begins is that too much or a nice gesture? I would wake up earlier, take the subway down, get it, take the subway back and meet her. I'm just asking because nowadays I don't know if women even appreciate kind acts like that because as a guy I don't want to waste my time. I'm in my 30s now and my 20s flew by by going after the wrong girls which I regret. The same way women will be cautious by experiences from guys in her past, yes I feel exactly the same way about females today, it's not hate but I also have to worry about myself to. I've done nice gestures, given space, tried to be understanding with women throughout the years which has led no where. I feel like this is my last ditched attempt and if it doesn't work, I don't have the confidence and patience to keep trying and pursuing women. I try my best that women get to know me, where I stand, what my morals and principles are.
Overall, I have my own apartment, my own car, good job, I'm doing grad studies atm, have money saved up, take care of my health. I think I'm on the right path but finding a good loyal woman nowadays isn't easy. It's not like I'm searching for 10/10 sports illustrated model, amazing chef, do what I say type woman. I can compromise and be civil, understanding as well but I really question today's society especially when it comes to dating. I understand women have a life but if a guy is taking time out of his busy schedule where he works hard, has family stuff, his own friends that's where it can't be a one-sided affair where I have to be understanding and she's not cognizant of my life either, I think that's one of the biggest issues today.
What Girls Said
Yes, you should get her the dessert 100%. Maybe go to a bar. walk through a nature site. go to a gallery/museum. Visit a market or shopping center. Maybe find live music. maybe grab coffee. visit a garden or planetarium. look at books or animals/aquarium. go on a drive. light a fire. take photos. a lot of things that could wow her or leave her with an impression she won't forget
What if he lives 6 hours away. Could he light a fire for you on Skype and play you a country song on his guitar?
Hahaha yes he could
Oh hell yes! What if the country song isn't ready yet? Would you accept Backstreet Boys?
Ok nevermind, just be on the lookout for some momentary Skype information.
lmao I like that one backstreet boys song
@Реrverted_Сreeр Ok please have some respect for my post, can the rest of y'all not put drama or troll my post with different opinions.
Now that I think about it, Elvis is more in my vocal range
Let's sing together