Why is going to the movies a bad first date idea?

Especially if the girl and guy barely know each other. I think it's a great first date idea where you wouldn't have to worry about things getting awkward because you don't know what to say. But I see that most people on GAG say that it's a bad first date idea.

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  • If you are worried about being awkward and running out of things to say, going to the movies is a good idea. You go and you sit for about 2 hours, you are not supposed to talk, you can hold hands in the dark if you want, and afterwards, you can talk about the movie.

    If you do not have that concern, them sitting through a movie deprives you of time that you could be talking and becoming acquainted.

    An alternative first date, if it is available in your area, is to go to a zoo in the afternoon. Walking around looking at the animals provides lots of things to talk about, and for a girl who feels insecure, a daytime date is "safe." If you do this mid-afternoon, you can always go to dinner afterwards if you want to extend the date (but it is usually better to end a first date when things are going well and you have been together about 3 hours. First dates, even when they go well, are stressful and can be tiring. It is always better to end "on a high note.")

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  • I hate cinema dates for a first date. I prefer to go for a coffee , then we can chat in a relaxed setting. It's a less formal atmosphere. The purpose of a first date is to get to know each other more. You can't do that in the cinema. After the movie ends you then have to decide what to do next. You can't just say goodnight then go home after a few hours of silence between you both at the cinema. That would feel even more awkward. Plus, you can't develop a rapport with each other at the cinema.

    A second date is less awkward if you have built up a rapport on the first date. If you sit in silence at the cinema on a first date , the second date will feel just as awkward as the first

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What Guys Said 29

  • Can't get to know each other. There needs to be a balance in activities.

    No activity = very awkward talking getting to know each other

    Too much activity = not getting anytime to get to know each other

    Going to a movies is too much activity. You need something with 70% activity 30% talking. That way it won't be awkward.

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  • Because if you don't know each other, you want to get to know each other. You want to be able to talk and find out about each other. There's no point in sitting through a movie together, only to find out you're completely not compatible after having a conversation afterwards.

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  • Because the purpose of the date is to interact, talk, communicate, play, flirt, make eye contact, learn things about each other, reach across the table and touch a hand at a funny comment.

    At the movies you are just staring at a screen for 2 hours. You may like the film but you don't get to really interact much.

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  • So it's actually not bad if you do something before or after. Like go get coffee before or ice cream after. The talking part is the ice cream or whatever and the entertainment part is the movie, preferably a comedy, and then it overall feels like a good night

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  • Yeah I agree it's a horrible place for a first date. If you barely know each other you should go to a place where you can talk. A movie is like a place where you is strong yourself and focus on the screen unless you just go to fool around with them.

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  • its kinda cliche... stale... mundane... regular. No creativity. matter of fact... netflix on the couch is now better.

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  • It's the worst place to go to get to know someone better. The beach, the park or just a walk to a local restaurant is good.

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  • It's a bad idea... because on a date your focus should be on getting to now each other and not in the movie!

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  • Because by it's self it's not a vary interactive expirance as you are sitting down watching a film and some like to so that with no talking it's okey if you hang a bit before or go food after but by it's self it's not that good

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  • It is fine if you go eat after, especially if neither of them is very outgoing. Then you can discuss stuff from the movie.

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  • I don't think it's a bad idea. Maybe go to the movies where you have the show to save you from any awkward moments, but you can still talk and interact a little. Then afterwards, go out for ice cream like @Peopleschamp said. Now that you've warmed up to each other, you should be able to talk more comfortable. Essentially, talking is where the bonding happens so if you just go to the movies and silently watch the movie while sitting beside each other it's going to be bad, but if you interact with each other a bit before and after, I think it can be a really good memory.

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  • because it is wasted time in getting to know the person. In order to get a feel if you want a second date or not, you'll need to learn about the other person, not sit and stare at a screen.

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  • ... can't really get to know each other, but I have got lucky in the other department, like skipped talking went to foreplay, then when did get to talk... was no good

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  • It's a good ice breaker. It's worked ok for me in the past!!!

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  • It is considered a bad idea in that you can not talk to each other. First dates are supposed to be about getting to know the person.

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    • If you can not have a first date without being awkward, the second date is also going to be be awkward so just talk anyway.

  • Well its not that interactive. I'd rather go for a walk and talk together.

    You can't really talk in a movie theatre.

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  • It's better to have a little more interaction the first time around, it's hard to do so at the movie theatre

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  • The first date is where you vet to know the other person. Going to the movies there is 1:30-3 hours of not talking so how are you to get to know them.

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  • Because you'd both be paying attention to the movie, not to each other. You'd miss out on getting to know the person.

    Simples...

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  • To me I'd want to talk to the gal to get to know her. If the conversation flows, it flows.

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What Girls Said 2

  • I think the point of a first date is getting to know someone, so if you just sit in silence you can't do that. Maybe if you went to dinner at first it would be better, but the awkward moments are just part of a first date, and getting past them makes things so much better later.

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  • Because you're not paying attention to the other person, you'd be leaving your first date without actually knowing the other person

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