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So I have this coworker he's a rather timid man and doesn't speak much unless you specifically ask him a question typically.

I wouldn't call him unfriendly or anything personally I like him and like hearing what he has to say. So I probably bother him a bit to much 😅 just to be clear I like him in a platonic way not a romantic way. And I'm married so I'm sure he knows that.

He stated last week that he doesn't have any friends just as a off handed comment that he probably forgot he told me.

I was thinking about inviting him to go do something and would like to be his friend but I honestly don't know if he wants a friend he might just be politely tolerating my bullshit and just doesn't want to tell me to fuck off and leave him alone

So what do you think should I ask him to hangout or no?

30f and I really can’t tell if I’m inevitably single because I don’t want a relationship or it’s a case of self sabotage. Within the past few years, the only attention I’ve gotten from attractive guys were on dating apps. But that should be taken with a grain of salt, I feel like compared to the average woman, I don’t get attention from quality guys in person. I’m pretty shy and tend to speak when spoken to, on top of bad anxiety, I’ll say I question if women can relate to my lack of sex drive. I haven’t had sex since my early twenties/don’t masturbate and couldn’t care less if I died a virgin, will feel some kind of way if I’ve never found love though.

It’s as if I want the reassurance I’m desirable (from what seems like decent men) vs actually going out on dates, I’m insecure but wouldn’t just go for anyone that gives me the time of day. I just don’t get why it can’t ever go my way w/ the OLD apps, it’s likely bad luck but a pattern of: ghosting, fizzling out, the convo not flowing to my expectations & I dip out, just lack of interest (can go both ways) etc. I’m attracted to men, I really don’t think id date a woman but something about men at the same time turns me off (physically & personality wise). Like almost every woman I've known has been boy crazy since they were pre-teens and I never got it, I thought they were exaggerating or I was a late bloomer. Well here I am 2 decades later, my closest thing to boy crazy were celebrity crushes.

Am I looking for excuses to justify being single? Is it simply a case of being unlucky? Is there more to unpack here? Or is the right guy all it takes for it to fall into place?