Girls, Why Shy Guys Often Get Ignored in Flirting Even When They’re Worth Noticing.

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of genuinely good men out there. Thoughtful, respectful, emotionally steady. The kind of men who aren’t looking to impress for attention but to connect sincerely. Many of them are shy and because of that, they often go unnoticed in the early stages, especially when it comes to flirting.

Shy guys don’t flirt the way most people expect. They aren’t playful and bold with their words. They won’t drop clever lines or make obvious moves. Their version of flirting is subtle, A glance, a small compliment, or just quietly being around because they enjoy someone's presence.

In social settings, the loud and confident personalities tend to dominate the space. Meanwhile, the quiet ones get overlooked, not because they lack interest, but because their way of showing it is easy to miss. And yet, they’re often the ones who have the most genuine intentions behind their interest.

Flirting isn’t just about charm or games. Sometimes it’s about emotional safety, sincerity, and real connection. But it takes patience and a different kind of awareness to pick up on that kind of energy.

Many shy guys simply don’t know how to “play the game,” but what they bring is real. And that quiet effort deserves to be seen.

[Anonymous]

nobody will notice you if you don't know how to talk or flirt with women.

nobody will notice you if you can't even make eye contact with a woman.

then you come on here GAG, telling women that they should pay attention to you.

Maybe get yourself some social skills and some confidence, someone will notice your presence.

of course it is easier to go online beg for attention by posting BS

[myTake Owner]

I am not begging for attention. I am sharing a perspective that many shy guys relate to but rarely express. Social skills can be learned, but character runs deeper. Eye contact and smooth talk matter, but so do honesty, patience, and kindness. Some women do notice that and those are the ones worth noticing back.

[Opinion Owner]

@mytake owner

how can anyone respect you if you refuse to even learn basic social skills?

why would anyone think you are worthy of anyone's attention if you can't even make eye contact with a woman?

there are plenty of outgoing guys who have great character.

there is no reason to go for a shy, mute person who cannot talk (who also has great character)

[PeachyPie93]

If a guy is hot I will notice a shy guy, since they tend to be really nice. Tho if it is hard to keep a conversation going I won't force it and usually lose interest since it seems like he isn't interested in me.

[myTake Owner]

I appreciate your honesty. That actually supports what I was saying, Shy guys can be kind and genuine, but they often get overlooked if they struggle to keep a conversation going. It is not about lack of interest, just nerves. A little patience can go a long way in helping someone open up and show who they really are.

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah I know because I am usually shy as well but with someone outgoing I can easily talk and keep a convo.. So when we are both shy it gets awkward lol

[myTake Owner]

That kind of quiet awkwardness can actually be where the best connections start. Sometimes it just takes the right person to turn that silence into something interesting.

[PeachyPie93]

That's true but I don't like to sit in that feeling for long lol

[Sunshinegecko00]

It definitely depends on the woman.
Shallow women may be impressed by the loud extroverted types while overlooking the shyer types. At the end of the day it’s not about pick up lines or the “wow” factor. Sometimes it just seems like they are compensating for something.

If you don’t want a shallow woman, continue to be genuine, intentional, and respectful.

I had a guy that approached me a few months ago and he was very shy but it kind of came across as creepy. However, he invited me out with a group of friends and that helped me see who he was a little bit more. Sometimes people need other’s personalities to feed off of in social settings.

Real women will appreciate sincerity and thoughtfulness you display

[SexyPulse]

this brings me to a saying i once heard, I dont know here i heard it but it has stuck with me ever since then it says that "Alpha's fuck and Beta's Jerk off". As for why shy guys get ignored is because, they dont talk to anyone you have to get noticed for someone to flirt with you, as a shy girl i have to force myself to talk to people.

[myTake Owner]

That saying only proves the problem.
People chase loudness, not substance. So shy guys jerk off while ‘alphas’ cheat, lie, and ghost. Meanwhile, the girls who ignored the shy guy end up asking where all the good men went.

[LauraJ00]

Well, if I’m flirting with him, and his response is weak (timid or shy) Im going to assume he’s not really that interested. If he’s interested he needs to find a way to show it.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

This 💯💯💯

[Anonymous]

A man should be bold and confident. "Shy" guy sounds insecure and weak. No woman wants a weak man.

[myTake Owner]

Shyness is not weakness. It is reflection, restraint, and quiet confidence. Many shy men are strong. They just do not need to prove it with volume.

[Opinion Owner]

It is weak you're a man. A man is supposed to be a confident,, strong and a leader. Shyness demonstrates weak @mytake owner no woman wants that. So how's being weak going for you? Lol hasn't gotten you anywhere

[myTake Owner]

If being loud and arrogant is what you call strength, I am glad I am not your type. Real strength is staying true to yourself in a world that rewards fakery. I would rather be overlooked than fake who I am to impress someone who clearly values surface over substance. You just proved my point better than I ever could.

[Opinion Owner]

Confidence isn't loud and arrogant. See you don't even know what confidence is. Jeff bezzos confident, intelligent, well spoken, demands respect and authority . You're none of that. So how's it going for you being weak and insecure?

[Opinion Owner]

You're struggling and asking for help.

[myTake Owner]

Confidence is not wealth or ego. It is knowing who you are without needing to prove it. I may be shy, but I am honest, self-aware, and growing. That is strength. Mocking someone for it only proves your own insecurity.

[Opinion Owner]

Are you retarded? I see why you can't get anyone you're insecure, weak and illiterate. Most likely unattractive too I'm don't here you're pathetic and hopeless

[myTake Owner]

Wow. That was a lot. I might be shy, but even I know basic respect. You came here to insult a stranger for being honest. That says way more about you than it does about me. But hey, thanks for reminding me why I prefer quiet over chaos.

[nastyb]

@mytake owner

if "staying true to yourself" is called being shy, meek and mute, then you're in bad luck

[Opinion Owner]

@nastyb he will never learn. That's why he's struggling now. No woman wants some weak man

[myTake Owner]

You’ll keep chasing loud, cocky guys who treat you like an option, then wonder why you keep getting ran through and left behind. Meanwhile, the ‘weak’ shy guys you mock are the ones building real lives and real loyalty, Just not with women who only see value in noise and dominance.

[Opinion Owner]

@mytake owner again you are struggling not us. You don't listen, you're retarded, you think being a weak insecure loser should get you brownie points with women. No

[nastyb]

@myTake Owner

these guys are loud and cocky for a reason. because they have confidence in themselves. You're shy and timid and nobody knows you exist because you secretly hate yourself

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly!!

[myTake Owner]

Keep chasing noise and flash over substance. Just don’t act surprised when the same ‘confident’ guys go ghost, cheat, or treat you like a placeholder. Shy guys aren’t invisible—you’re just not looking until it’s too late and you’re stuck rebuilding from another ‘lesson learned’.

[Opinion Owner]

You are single and you are broke.

[myTake Owner]

Single and broke is temporary. You?
You'll be emotionally bankrupt, passed around by 'confident' guys, and still calling it bad luck while blaming everyone but yourself.

[nastyb]

@mytake owner

if you are still shy and can't talk to women at 40, it will never change.

its nothing temporary. You've already spent most of your life this way. This is what you are used to. Its hard to change anything beyond the age of 28.

[myTake Owner]

@nastyb If things were really so great, you wouldn’t feel the need to clap back at a ‘single and broke’ guy online. Sounds like you’re defending choices that even you secretly regret.

[nastyb]

@myTake Owner

I'm still in my 20s, I can still improve my life. You can't, most of your life/ dating prime is already over.

[myTake Owner]

@nastyb If you were really happy with your life, you wouldn’t be here attacking someone older, You’d be living it. The fact that you're still checking on me proves you’re scared you’ll end up just like me.

[Sammygirl9287]

I think it's because he can come across as not interested

[Anonymous]

Why is a man in his 30s still flirting?

[myTake Owner]

I am a shy man in my 40s. Flirting is not about age, it is about connection. Some people flirt to impress, others flirt to connect. I fall into the second group.

[nastyb]

@mytake owner

no offense but if you are still shy in your 40s, its already too late to change that.

[myTake Owner]

@nastyb Compared to what?

Being a slut in my 20s.

I'm glad I'm shy in my 40s, Because I have still have a chance at finding love unlike you.

The only way can get a guy to like you is to open your legs pretty much.

No offence

[nastyb]

@myTake Owner

you have no chance of finding love in your 40s. You're past your prime. You're not rich. You have no social skills, personality or charisma.

[chocolatetwopointo]

too ugly