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If these things are met, then the relationship progresses:

- You never got into ugly arguments with yelling matches nor insulted each other. It's ok to disagree on topics but never ok to be verbally abusive.

- Neither you nor your partner has problems with the parents. Both sets of parents like each other.

- There is mutual help in the relationship and both are serious about wanting a family.

- There is no jealousy nor trust issue whatsoever.

- Similar views on important topics

- Good management in finances and knowing when to save money

If the relationship already has lots of arguments, drama, too much differences, trust issues (even worse if cheating too place) and either your parents hating your partner or your partner's parents hating you then I can image that can either slow down the process or transform it into a dead-end that eventually leads to a break-up. After all what would be the motivation of wanting to settle down and have kids with them? None. You already have the negatives you are already dreading moving towards the next step.

It's like you're already having an issue with your employee and is he's still in training... after all that are you doing to even want to promote him (even if he has worked for 6+ years)... nope.

I'm a hot head, But hear me out please,
I had an unstable and abusive upbringing, so that's why I'm a hot headed woman. I'm not violent, I used to be when I was a child but I went to therapy and got exposed to a more peaceful environment as I grew to became a teenager and a young adult so I do not throw things, hit people or become physically abusive in any way.

But I do get upset easily and I raise my voice if I get provoked and defend myself verbally. The reason why I yell when I'm provoked is because it's a way to avoid crying instead, I cover up hurt and sadness through anger, because otherwise I would instead break down and cry in front of people who provoke me or hurt me and I no longer want to do that anymore because I have noticed that when I do cry in situations like that I get taken advantage of, laughed at and I never get taken seriously at all.

But it's a deep rooted habit now, if I find myself in heated debates, disagreements or if I'm hurt by someone verbally I usually express anger and I raise my voice and verbally defend myself. Then I storm off angrily to cry about the situation in secret, I calm down very quickly and then feel absolutely terrible afterwards. Then I come to my senses and then I do my absolute best to resolve things fairly and reasonably, I mean well overall, I am not a hater and I never ever want to hurt anyone in any way. Now I think I'm going to end up alone and single because I'm hot headed woman... So would you get into a relationship with a hot headed woman, like me or no?