Do men who were abused in relationships successfully bounce back?

[Anonymous]

Like my abusive ex girlfriend broke up with me she was verbally and physically abusive. She made fun of various parts of me having ocd, she called me being dramatic when certain things or events would produce anxiety. When she didn’t get her way she would have a raging fit and threatened to breakup multiple times before it actually happened. She has smacked me in the back of my head. Like I feel I have regained my independence and sense of self since I have been on my own now for a few weeks but I don’t feel like I can trust again because I have so much of myself for it to go like that I don’t feel like I have anything left In the tank. Like before I had an itch for a relationship because as an autistic guy who was 28 I had never experienced it but now when I take my dog to the park and watch him run I’m at peace and no longer really desire it.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but sometimes it takes meeting/surrounding yourself with the right people to fully heal. I still carry scars from 20 years. ago. Yes they're fully healed. But anyone with a wound deep enough knows that that wound will always be tender when touched.

I guess what I'm saying is (when the times right), when you reach that level of trust with a new partner you need to communicate that your last partner left you with these scars. They're healed but they are there so please be mindful of that. Communicate how you need to be treated to maintain that level of trust with her. She's either going to accept that or she isn't and if she isn't it's better for the BOTH of you that she leaves. She's not the right person for you.

[DextroShade]

Men can bounce back from this more easily than women can.

[Anonymous]

It should make you stronger.