If your parents were rude to your significant other (because they had someone else in mind for you), would you confront them?

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#WhatsTheScenario Just answer the scenario question above. If you’re single, just play along. I honestly dont know many people who have their significant other’s backs these days. Its cool to respect your parents and all but to let them walk all over your relationship with someone else is fcked up.  My mother and I are usually cool until a guy comes into the picture. She can't stand coming 2nd to him and she can't stand when i tell her to stop being weak and letting her man picks verbally abuse and sexually use her.  When she disrespected my ex, i had his back and she was livid. I’ll always have the guys back if I see a future with him because everyone else is just apart of my past/present.  But yea, I’ve had a lot of exes who didn't stand up for me and I was out. Fck a mama’s boy. I like the ones who respect their mom but to be all up her ass and let her make decisions for you is a nahh from me dawg. #FeelFreeToList #ParentsJustDontUnderstand

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

my parents would never dare to do something like that... again... lol

when I was 16~17 I did something that "did not look good" but they were not wrong, they were not a big deal either but my mother was in one her moods that time, so she got really upset with me and she questioned me about this matter, when she realized that it was not a big deal she still kind of, wanted to argue... so she made it bigger and about me not doing things right or the way I "should do things"

and then she did dare to say " I hear about this and that about this girl " (my mother knows everyone in three different states and people like to gossip) then she kind of implied if she was being a bad influence on me and the " you better don''t... " I didn't let her finish that sentence, I put a full stop to it right away and I got really pissed off lol

that was the battle of a century in my household... it was the only one time that I actually interrupted her and got a tone like "you listen to me" and I would not stop setting facts straight, my father showed up promptly and well, he had an opinion as well,. so I did the put the record straight for both.. you do not say a bad word about her, ever... or we're done and they knew I meant that, I was stupid enough back then to just leave my house... lmfao, and they never said anything about her like that, however... that fight and arguments because about everything else and we went like four or six hours... any thing they want to say about me and then and our relationship, I didn't mind, just don't say anything about the one I love

thing is, they didn't really had anything against her, they didn't even know of her, she was probably mad about the fact that I didn't tell them about her, so they only had what people commented as an idea of her, so...

nowadays, as an adult that I am... if they had any legit and genuine concern about the one I am with, then they would just bring it up and talk with me about it and it would not be an argument, I am sure... I would just clarify things and that it's it.. it is what it is... lol

God_of_Thunder · Accepted Answer

I actually had a falling out with my mother, at one point in the past, because of that.

I won't go into specifics, and it wasn't the worst thing you could say about a person, but it was bad enough. I've honestly never been real close to my parents, but my mother and I had been trying to rebuild our relationship at that point, and it all went south, real fast.

See, the thing is, when I am in a serious relationship with someone, they become the most important person in my life, and I will defend them, both verbally, and physically (if there is a physical threat).

I don't care if you don't like my SO, or even if you don't think we're right for each other; if you've got a problem with her, you bring it to me. What you don't do is take it out on her, when it's unwarranted.

Sure, if my SO is being a bitch to you, then fine, but not when she hasn't done anything. That's just petty, and uncouth. You do, and suddenly you'll be dealing with me, instead of her, because I'll come between you in a heartbeat.

I'm kinda all "Hulk Smash" after typing that. Little bit worked up, now. 😂

Uptowngirl88 · Accepted Answer

Yeah I don't like mommas boys or sisters boys. I've dealt with both. The big sister issue was annoying she was always in the business and u couldn't stand it. My ex didn't have my back at all. It was his mom a d sis who were intrusive. I left and ytold him to marry his momma🤣 and sister.

To answer your question, I wouldn't let my parent publicly humiliate my significant other. If my parents have concerns I'd suggest we discuss it privately.

Do you remember Kandi burrouss mom from atl house wives and Candace mom from housewives of potomac 🤣🤣? Imagine being with a guy whose momma is like that.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I'd call them on it.

My husband and I started dating in high school. When I went away to college we continued to date. My parents asked me multiple times when I'd bring a boy home to meet them.

Like, bruh. I already did. Years ago. You met him already lmao

We've been married now for 4 years and they absolutely love him.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes I would , that is very disrespectful and fucked up , luckily my parents have never done that to me , but I dated a girl that her Mom was trying to get her to be with another guy and would make comments in front of me to her daughter about him , I wanted to tell her Mom to Go fuck herself so many times but I played it cool , luckily the girl really liked me so she told her Mom to get out of her face and little did her Mom know her comments were just making her daughter want me more and more , So i just thought to myself , Go head Mom tell her To leave me cuz sex is getting better and better lol , So yes parents should not intervene unless their kid is in an abusive relationship then that’s a different story , Comes to find out the only reason her Mom didn’t want her being with me is because I lived far away and she did not want her daughter being far from her , well Her daughter became my wife well ex now and the mother of my children. My MIL and I eventually got close and she apologized to me , But 1 thing for sure my MIL was a very selfish person and I watched through the years how she
Tried controlling my wife and her brother , it was sick to watch honestly ,

Lliam · Answer

I'd have my partner's back. My parents would have a lot of nerve being rude to them. If that happened, I would take my partner and leave. I'd reassure my partner that my parents were being ass holes. Later, I'd confront my parents. They are free to share their opinions with me, but I don't have to agree with them put up with bullshit. And they'll either treat my partner with respect or see a lot less of me. Fuck that. I'm a grown man and will make my own life decisions. If they don't like it, too bad.

TheorionMage · Answer

I HAVE.
At my college graduation, my Mother a Scorpio, wanted to be the Prima Donna
despite my undergraduate girl friend attended with the family my mother refused to join us for my celebratory dinner at the college because my girlfriend was to attend. My mother also refused to visit my off-campus apartment DESPITE my girlfriend NOT living in-residence with me.

I BLUNTLY explained...
"YOU are my PAST, and Present. ... SHE is my PRESENT and POSSIBLE future.
if YOU would like to CONTINUE into MY speculative future, THERE IS and WILL BE...
more than JUST YOU in MY future!"

She tried to RUIN MY day~

Aethereal · Answer

I would confront them. If this is someone I envision being with for a long time, it means that they are my top priority, even if that means alienating everyone else.

KryoAsteri · Answer

Yeah, I think you should always have your partners back, and even if you don't agree with them, I wait until we have privacy before bringing up what I dont agree with.

Twalli · Answer

I would listen to them and consider what they say. I know what was in danger of happening to my sister if she continued to date guys like she was. She was almost written out of their will. Now she's dating a better guy. So my parents didn't have a specific alternative, and weren't outright rude to her previous boyfriends, but she knew they didn't approve. As for me specifically I think my parents might write me out of their will if I break up with my girlfriend. The only thing that I see preventing us from getting married would be SSDI/SSI issues.

ohshee · Answer

Well yessss that is the fun part about introducing your new girlfriend to your mother because she's not going to like anybody she's always been that way I'm sure she's mellowed but I would always warn the girl that she might say something and just smile. And I wouldn't know what to do if she didn't say something
I would probably have to ask her if she's okay

RobT312 · Answer

Well... so far so good. They treat my fiancée like a daughter of their own.
they are friends and they even sometimes do things without me! Luckily they want her as a part of the family. I haven’t seen a fight yet, maybe they are still on best behavior, 🤣

Samoht_Sirrom1 · Answer

Scenario doesn't matter the answer is yes it is your life not theirs they have no right to tell you who to be with even if the person was a drug lord a gang member the mafia whatever it's your decision to make and it's have a problem with it that's their tough s***.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

I am very transparent with my parents so yes, I'd definitely confront them.

Although I have to say my parents (mostly my mum) knows everything I've been through when it comes to guys and so I'd trust her judgement. She also knows me very well.

sheikalana · Answer

Pffff I would laugh on their faces. Luckily we don't have such thing in our culture. My parents don't know what or who's best for me. If they don't like my SO that's okay I would make sure I don't bring my partner to family reunions/lunch/dinners or perhaps I would have to miss those family reunions because I have a family of my own now. Their problem not mine.

Mangospacho · Answer

I would just respond with this.

pretty_bad · Answer

Ofc I would like it's okay to say how they feel or what they think of the person to me in private bit being rude to someone because they want me to date whoever they choose I'm definitely going off disrespectfully too especially if they did it infront the person who I date is my choice like it or not idc

Valso · Answer

When I was young my mother tried to impose her views on me about whom should I date but I was a rebel even then, so I clearly showed her what I thought about that and she gave up trying. I can't say what I would do in the described situation bc I've never been or will ever be in such a situation.

kellytheman · Answer

My mom was cool who I ever dated and one time my dad didn't like me dated this black girl because she already had 2 kids and thought she was looking for a new daddy and money. She kinda was but I was kinda screw you dad. But most girls that I date black or white or a different ethnicity my parents are cool with.

VarddaanKaushikk · Answer

Definitely , I'm in love with the girl and she's making me a better person and I feel more alive with her , then I'm not going to let anyone be rude to her. Even if they had someone in their mind who they thought was better than my partner , I wouldn't care because I'm in love with this girl and this girl only no matter what anyone says.

Chlo3_2001 · Answer

Yes. I'd tell them this is who I want to date and respect me and them and leave it at that. If you're both legal and consenting adults and both in a happy and healthy relationship then what other people think doesn't matter.

TrueConfection · Answer

Did I mention I eloped?  My husband and my parents are civilized to eachother, but it's more like the moment before shots are fired in an old fashion dual. Anyhow, we've had our ups and downs.

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

This thing would never occur with me. I would marry to anyone my parents say yes to. Of course my recommendations regarding qualities will be there. But never regarding a specific person.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes its not fair on my partner and well also I wouldn't be a good partner if k didn't. Also it doesn't matter what my family think they should at least respect me enough to think for myself and give the woman a chance. I say should I doubt they would tho.

De_La_BakedBeans · Answer

I'd be more confused, that anything, because my parents wouldn't and haven't ever been rude to my girlfriend. But, just to play along, if they where, I'd have my girlfriend's back.

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

didn't like mama boys and deal with some of them were previous ex boyfriend and aswell being a complaint. My mum always like to limted my dating to a learning disabled guys , I would to stay up if i did have a partner.

AdithyaR · Answer

Yep I'd confront them about it.
Although I know they'd not do something like that, they're super chill.
If they were fine with me being openly atheist while thehre religious Hindu, they'd be fine with a partner I choose

exitseven · Answer

Yes, my mother did not like my wife. She thought I should have married my former girlfriend. She was very rude to my wife and at first I just let it go but finally I had to tell her she had to stop.

libsaretards · Answer

If there was a conflict, I would absolutely stick up for my SO. Luckily my mom and I share enough major morals that she usually approves whoever I date.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

You bet your ass I would. Bluntly. Thankfully that will never happen. My mom has no interest in who I hang out with, and my dad has no interest in me period.

SmokyOne · Answer

I was living on my own on and off since 15yrs old so my parents aren't rude because they let go of that a long time ago. I also don't bring around girls that would be disrespectful.

1988fido · Answer

simple if they dont want her to be with me they won't see me again

lrina · Answer

if my SO wasn't rude to them first, then i'd totally confront them.

melanieeeB · Answer

Oh hell yeah, especially when there is no reasoning for them to be rude.

Agape93 · Answer

Yeap. Last time it happened though I didn't need to, she tried to attack them lol

VaguelyAsianLisbeth · Answer

Yes I confronted my parents over my first girlfriend which was difficult to do. They weren't fans of my sexuality.

JosyJosy · Answer

Hell yeah, I won't let them talk down on my man. My choice, not theirs.

Anpu23 · Answer

Yes, absolutely. There's no call for that. The person I am with is my choice.

CaptainLegal · Answer

I wouldn't even bother dealing with them, if they don't like my S. O. then they shouldn't even bother talking to me

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Yes, I would. Absolutely. Everyone who knows me knows that I've never had any problem speaking my mind.

michael1469 · Answer

When younger my parents only wanted to take me out to dinner... as a couple obviously she would come along... parents had a shit fit right in the driveway... didn't speak to them for 5 years...

Anonymous · Answer

They would never because I would uno reverse them and say I have someone else in mind for them too, then literally try to being home an adult at school to set them up with said parent to split them apart.

Pbnj468 · Answer

Yes.. and I can say this with my head heals high because I'm already doing it... I feel parents should allow there kids to grow and learn from there mistakes even if its a relationship

HaveNoName · Answer

Confronting then will only create problems. It is a very difficult balancing act that you have to play.

hafinjun · Answer

Yes many years ago my dad got drunk and out of hand with my now x , nearly came to blows

Godsvengeance · Answer

I did confront them and when that didn't work, I cut them out of my life completely

pizzalovershouse · Answer

I tell them I care about them an they treat me good

JohnQue74 · Answer

After 30 years mom and gal do not get together. I love them both, so I do my best to make sure they are not around each other too often.

imfreeze95 · Answer

I’ll confront anyone on anything if they are wrong.  I told someone I was a Protestant and I said yes in every sense of the word

Guido · Answer

I would have but never had to as they liked my choices.

bigpauly · Answer

I’d tell them they will be out of my life if they act like that

Anonymous · Answer

I'd walk out with my SO and come back married to her

Anonymous · Answer

Yea i would confront them about it. It's not their business, and they have no say in who i'm with.

Pyrofox · Answer

At a certain point I'd just plan my escape tbh.

CoolGuy7532 · Answer

I would just make it clear that it's my choice.

clouuuud · Answer

Yes, I want to know the reasons.

Juliette1994 · Answer

I have and they cut me out the toxicity.

Blaine999 · Answer

I'd definitely be telling them what I think 😈👊

Bigjake1019 · Answer

Yeah it’s bullshit when parents act like that

sammyyyyasdfghjkl · Answer

Yes I would.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yes.

jahaims · Answer

Obviously

TrillXHippy · Answer

Yes I would

mpodeszek · Answer

Yess i sure would.

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