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I consider using people any time you're dishonest about your intention or lie your way through to try obtain anything from that unsuspecting person.

This has already happened twice with 2 different male friends I've known for years. It was clear there wasn't anything romantic between us ever. One of tried groping me and then excusing it with an ''Oh sorry, I was just teasing'' when I removed his hands from him. Another ended up admitting in the end that he was trying to get a date from me eventually and though I would naturally changed my mind.

The groper ended up ghosting me afterwards and the other one blocked me. Needless to say I felt used. If I wanted a relationship I would make it clear from day 1, not pretend to be someone's friend and do the ''go by the natural flaw, maybe the person will change their minds eventually'' method; sound like deceiving to me.

Isn't that still using people?

The barista at my local coffee shop is really hot, is good with eye contact and we have really good conversations. We enjoy similar things and have similar political views. He teases me frequently which makes me think he like me simply as a friend. The first I time I came in he gave me my order for free and the next time as well, he tried to do it again but I insisted on paying for what I had ordered. He has covered some of the payment at times I've come up short. He does have a girlfriend but every time he mentions her its in an off handed way. Whenever I come in he tells me about things going on in his life and seems genuinely interested in what's going on in my life. I would have directly approached this and just asked him if he didn't have a girlfriend but I keeping getting mixed signals and am confused. Is he into me or am I reading way to much into this?