She I be vulnerable again?

[Anonymous]

Me (30) this girl (27) are just friends who used to like each other. Her and I had conversation about who we trust. And she told me her and I are good friends there's another guy who's she good friends with. We all live stream along with others talk about shit for real. But sometimes I notice her attention be on her him and they are more playful too. So brought it to her. Like what's up? She says she only see him as friend, and other stuff I stop paying attention to.

So fast forward near to Christmas. I told her that I'm going busy so I'm not going to her live. So that day I didn't go. I was spending time with family. Next day she post on Instagram she thanked the same guy I was once jealous of, for his companionship and being there for her. She never posted that kind of content on her instagram. When I confronted her about it. She said she didn't expect me to find out, then she said she was in bad mood, wanted me to at least stop by and was on her period.

Her and talked it over. I needed space and we returned back together. We been talking and all that everyday. But today I told her I'm not going support her with work cause financial issues and not going to her live cause I have my own career. She was very understanding. But real reason is cause secretly hate when she gets a lot male attention live. I'm afraid I tell her she will use it against me. So I rather tell her I'm busy and trying to save for a car. What do you think?

[Oliverlogan263]

Yo man, this whole situation sounds pretty messy and complicated. A few things stand out to me:

- You revealed your jealousy to her before, and it caused issues. Might be best to keep feelings like that private in future to avoid drama.

- Seems like she doesn't really see you the same romantic way anymore, as much as you still have lingering feelings. That Instagram post woulda hurt.

- Telling white lies about being busy probably isn't the move either - just breeds more distrust over time. Honesty is usually best.

My advice would be try distancing a bit for real. Give each other space instead of always talking daily. Focus on your own growth and goals, do your own thing without relying on her livestreams as a crutch.

If over time you find yourself getting over her, great. Maybe a friendship could work then. But for now it seems the feels are still there, and that ain't healthy. Take a step back man, see how you feel with less contact. You'll gain clarity. Hope this perspective helps broaden your thinking! Just do you.

[Anonymous]

You need to communicate effectivity and forget this social media nonsense.

[Asker]

I told her already. She said it's her job. Hope I understand. She talk to others and all that on ig and tiktok. She fet paid on tiktok though.