It’s no secret that men are constantly being conditioned to be “strong” and not show too much weakness of vulnerability. How does this affect you today? Do you feel comfortable sharing your emotional side with the opposite sexe? Have you ever tried it? How was it received? Would you do it again?
I honestly hate it because it is really a trap at the end of the day. Women want men to be vulnerable, but the huge issue with this is that if a man unloads everything he is shouldering and bothering him with the woman he loves or cares about, he will get punished for it because men showing vulnerability is a display of weakness to a degree and it hurts the woman's attraction to her man on a subconscious level.
Ask women what drew them to their man in the first place and how he acts on the daily and then ask her if she ever felt turned off by his behaviors or if he showed vulnerability. See if she says thay she did but couldn't understand why. It comes down in biological programming from survival standpoint. A woman wants a man who is constantly strong enough to keep them alive. It is the reason why men tend to be leaders in the relationship. It is why women are selective with who the fuck and have babies with. If she senses weakness she loses trust and respect for him because he then isn't able to face the challenges to keep them safe when they come up.
Men have been burned constantly by women for doing exactly what they asked by showing vulnerability, because vulnerability means something different to both genders. Women view vulnerability in the sense of how he feels about her and the relationship, not about his personal struggles. Men view vulnerability about the shit that weighs on us and not feeling safe with telling our women anything that bothers us knowing she will grow to resent us if we do... that is why we spend time alone in our garage, man cave, the bar with our boys or even a therapist to decompress or speak about our issues because we can relate to them better without fear of being shunned by the one we love and want to see when we come home to. Not the one that will eventually abandon us if we really continue to display vulnerability as asked of them.
I speak from experience as well. I can tell you now that is how I deal with it. Women regardless if they are friend or lover have shown they will drop you like a hot tamale for showing any vulnerability. Because it is a feminine trait. This has happened to me plenty of times to know that it is a death sentence when it comes to women to do that. I don't trust women with vulnerability or my emotions at all.
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I have become more comfortable opening up as I get older and more willing to risk pain by communicating how I feel. In some ways I’m learning how to share positive and negative emotions. But there is still some concern as when I do feel vulnerable I’ve had my heart attacked hard in the past. So I sometimes feel fearful she will cut my heart open if I give it to her wall free.
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Terrified. I'm well aware that anything I tell her is likely to be used against me later.
I can with my wife because she's not toxic and views me as a human first. But before her, fuck no. Women say they want vulnerability and emotional honesty but when most guys do it, it shatters that idealistic masculine fantasy that many have and suddenly they go off you. Some girlfriends got pissed off at me for changing the way they looked at me, as if I'm responsible for maintaining their preferred pov.
Only exception was when I cried and vented to a girl while I was angry. I guess the anger maintained the appearance or something, I don't knowI got nothing to hide, if she wants to know I will tell her. Just do not ask then act like it is all too much for you or get nervous about my answers. Nothing pisses me off more when someone asks about by ex-wife, and the highly toxic relationship I had and then they get uncomfortable about the level of emotions I have about it.
Men should never share their emotions with women. women do not understand how men think and deal with emotions and they generally shame, attack, or look down on us for anything the don’t like or understand.
Women have been shown time and time to see men as less of a man for being vulnerable around them.
Men use their buddies for emotional support because men know how men think.I wasn't born yesterday, and learned that men shouldn't really allow women to know where to hit, years ago.
It's not that men are conditioned to be strong. It's just you do not want to be weak around a woman.
They're fucking evil by nature if you're vulnerableSeriously? Women are savage to men who share any emotion other than the emotion a woman wants him to show. Let him show any weakness (just basic human weaknesses we all have) and she will bounce. Just look how women react when a man loses his job, gets sick, or becomes disabled. No one is more full of shit than a woman who says she wants a man to express his emotions.
Women can’t be trusted when girls are mad you say whatever you can to hurt someone
I saw a girl get exposed for cheating and when he broke up with her she said this verbatim “ Maybe I cheated because I wanted a real man maybe you never grew into a real man because your dad left you because he didn’t want you”
women are too vindictive and spiteful for men to open up its women fault that we don’t
In my experience, most of the time a girl loses interest the moment a guy is seen as vulnerable
Not good because it has not worked out well for me in the past.
Been there, done that, got burned. I don't know if I'll feel comfortable doing that again.
I give what I'm given. As a rule I typically don't show vulnerability. Many women just want understand how to "play you" better. Not get closer to you.
Trust is earned not given. If she wants to see vulnerability she has to earn it... over time... a loooong time. If she doesn't want to put that time in, we'll then it appears my suspicions were correct. Thanks for playing.
It is often a horrible idea. I find that girls somewhat look down on men who actually do open up and nothing dries their pussy up faster than a whiney man. There may be exceptions, but this is the rule.
I would have to trust that woman to be vulnerable.
Im fine with it, but from experience... women cringe and lose interest in men who are emotionally open... it's why men hide it to begin with, women don't actually want to hear it or see a man be vulnerable.
the way it 99% of the time gets used against us is one of the reasons i find dating/relationships to not be worth it.
The man who loves you and don't want to lose you will have no problem showing his emotions and vulnerabilites with you.
Yo, chicks dig that shit! Lol really I believe it's healthy to talk about feelings in a relationship and NOT past ones!
Women as men to show emotions but once we do, they call us feminine.
I’m in no need to talk about my emotions so why give them the chance to insult me!
From my experience, it always lead to them distancing from me.
It's a Catch 22. If you don't, you're "too hard" or "unemotional." If you do, you're "wimpy." or "soft." So I just do what I want.
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