What do you need from a man in order to feel comfortable letting your walls down and opening up your heart to him?

[L12xX]

Dating can be extremely difficult to navigate these days.

Many of us end up developing walls in order to protect ourselves.

A lot of men don’t seem to understand what many women need in order to let those walls down and show him her naturally sweeter side.

So let’s talk about it. Women, what would you need from a man, for you to let your walls down and show him your “sweeter”side?

Feel free to also share your story of why your walls go up in the first place and why you feel the need to put them up.

Thank you!

To feel safe

A ring

To meet his parents

Other - please specify in the comments

[Summeroflove]

The most important thing is to feel safe. You would not want a man you don’t feel safe with giving you a ring…. Every relationship is different.

No. Men can’t read minds. Also ALL women are DIFFERENT!!! What one woman wants and needs isn’t the same as another. The same for men. So a woman needs to tell a man what she wants and needs. If you’re not compatible then you’re not compatible.

[L12xX]

%100 agreed! Well said.

[Summeroflove]

Thanks so much

[Anonymous]

I don't want to be anything other than what I've been tryna be lately. All I have to do Is think of me and I have peace of mind. I don't want to be anything other than what I've been tryna be lately. All I have to do is think of me and I have peace of mind. I'm tired of looking 'round rooms wondering what I've got to do or who I'm supposed to be Idon't want to be anything other than me.

[Akam93]

To feel safe with him. Always be more honest with him each day that goes by. Hoping he will understand and be there for me when I need him the most. Even though for me I have problems with men leaving me and finding another prettier woman I dont get far with them. Fear takes over my mind and think it's best for us to stop talking to each other due to him finding another woman.

[BarryLiverstone]

She’s gotta not only feel safe, but gotta Trust him and know that no matter how she feels and how vulnerable she gets he is there to support her and has her back. She could be crying or laughing and very upset and he doesn’t judge her, he holds her tightly and she knows he isn’t leaving and will be there


Does that make sense?

[L12xX]

Yes thank you for sharing! What you described is her feeling safe. It goes hand in hand with trust. 😊

[BarryLiverstone]

You are welcome.

[Crmolon]

I find it's actually really hard to find guys that you can just feel safe with entirely. Past hurts will come into play so it really takes one hell of a guy to make you feel safe and truly loved or cared for... in a way unique to only you, not a role he is playing out etc.

[Sabretooth]

This is meant for girls but the one about feeling safe has compelled me to answer on behalf of men--we need security, too.

[L12xX]

Agreed, I think both sexes are lacking trust with each other. Especially these days. Both genders seem to find dating and relationships hard right now. There are def good people on both sides. The trick is for them to find each other, and have the courage to also trust and not run away, avoid or self-sabatoge it out of fear. It's not always going to be easy or nice you great results, but at some point people just need to be willing to take the chance on love.

[Sabretooth]

Agreed. Honestly, for some girls--it's like we're not real men unless we're machine gods.

[KrakenAttackin]

"Men don't understand"? Are you fucking kidding? Why do you think the onerous is completely on MEN to turn off your "bitch switch"? How about you actually TRY to be a decent human worthy of a good man? Crazy idea, I know.

[L12xX]

Are you assuming all women are not worthy of a good man? Could you be projecting your experiences with specific women onto all women?

[Red-Blaze]

I need to feel safe with him to have trust in him on it kore then anything
Something that builds up

[bamesjond0069]

To feel safe. Most men are shit at this and so here I am wiping the floor with these lame dudes.

[Rainbow_Warming]

Obviously none of the three above on their own guarantee anything.

[CateM]

Trust, trust, and more trust