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My boyfriend was a few years ago (4 years ago) in a relationship with a girl for six years. They were on and off almost the whole time. Apparently great sex and he worshipped her. A lot of things he told me in the beginning that has stuck to my head still and I really wonder if I’m a second option after her since he’s bragged and spoken so extremely highly of her. She is very attractive so I don’t think he was over doing it either. I do think he really does find her extremely attractive perhaps much more than me.

There was a girl who wrote him once which he replied to mentioning me which is nice. I said he should block her. He said no I want to know if she’ll write me again. I took it as he wanted to keep the door open and I was upset about that for a long time. He said if I really think she’s something then we should all meet for coffee and I’ll know there’s nothing there. I was taken off by that and thought wow ok there must be nothing then since he’s so confident.

Another time speaking about the ex he was with for six years. I asked what he’d think if I wrote her, he got really pissed and said I’d never see him again if I did.

I find it weird such two different reactions. Would you say he’s protecting the ex and hopes to keep that door open just in case for another setback?

So I've been seeing this guy recently that I've been talking for a few months and we seem to have a lot of similarities/things in common. Whenever we would meet up/go on a date we always ended up doing something sexually and this one time he begged to do something and wouldn't take no for an answer but we didn't do anything. ( i have told him how i felt about things and he apologize for doing that and said it won't happen again)

he's new to all of this relationship stuff he's not use to it and things like meeting families/talking about kids or anything far ahead freak him out. He said he wants to take things naturally and not put pressure on it. He said something about what i said before about being lonely and starting over again. He has told his dad and friend about me. he's more of an in person guy.

When were in public he hardly looks at me sometimes (he did say thats what he does is people watch and just look around) and usually looks at me but when were alone he looks at me deeply in the eyes and is very affectionate. In public we do sometimes hold hands and hug , he puts his arm around me etc. We've had a few hiccups and he has anxiety so when we had a situation he was pushing me away.

He also told me he likes me and wants to be fair to me, he said he wants a relationship but his anxiety gets the best of him. (From what i can tell and confirmed with him)

he's a very shy guy and keeps to himself , not a huge fan of pda but when were alone he's not shy and as I've mentioned is very affectionate and looks deeply in my eyes and knows how to turn someone on/make someone feel good.