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Just a short story for the gist of it: I've met this woman whom I greatly enjoy talking to, who is also very beautiful, extroverted, outgoing and social. We met at church and spoke on a few ocassions. When I talked to her she always looked me straight in the eyes without breaking away and all that. She mentioned a bit casually that she and her friends hosted regular get-togethers back at their campus and that I should come. I said I'd think about it, flash forward to the Sunday before the Tuesday for the get-together and without me saying anything she goes out of her way to ask me if her friend had added me to their whatsapp group, I say no and she does so personally immidiately *and* adds me to her personal whatsapp (even though she didn't need to). Now at the actual events where I've attended thrice now, she's been a bit more "distant" I suppose, not really initating convos, at times I think even avoiding eye contact. Last time though me, her and my sister who went along spoke and she mentioned that she "overheard" my conversation nearby with another guy when I talked about how "it could be a movie the way you met your wife", even though she was at that time in the midst of a high-pace card game, and she commented on hearing something about "romantic movies" (I nor he said nothing of romance at any point).

So am I being silly here, is it just "normal extroverted girl behavior" or is there something to gauge here in the form of romantic interest or attraction? Thankful for input. I feel like the invite and whatsapp deal could be a sign but I'm chronically cynical lol.

I feel like my ex was emotionally abusive. I used to really be into her more than she was into me. She used tell me “I didn’t want this relationship, you did”. And when people would ask how we met she’d say “I didn’t wanna date him”. I explained to her how it hurts me when she says these things m. And she’d say “you’re just insecure”.

What’s even worse, she told me about how before we started dating. She went on dates with guys who she really liked and they rejected her. So am I the nice guy who finished last?

I used to be highly attracted to her. She never wanted sex with me, at the same time, complaining that her ex boyfriend didn’t want sex with her. She barely wanted to be affectionate with me.

Even worse, she used deliberately turn me on so she could sexually reject me. Would tell me “come over I’ll lick your balls and your butt” and refuse sex when I show up. Every single time we’d have an argument, even if it’s minor she’d say “you’re getting none”. So I started keeping silent to avoid conflict.

She used to complain that I’m not making her happy and give me reasons why. Which I’ll admit I’m not perfect, I know I have my flaws and bad habits, but. When I’d tell her what she’s doing to make me unhappy she’d reply “you knew I was a bitch when you met me”.

About 3 weeks ago we went to a Thanksgiving dinner at her friends house and I felt like she was kinda flirty with a guy. She seemed very touchy with him. I even saw her put her arm around him. I mentioned it to her a few days later. About how I was uncomfortable with how she behaved with him, and again. Told me “im insecure” and broke up with me. Denied ever putting her arm around him when I saw her do it.

It’s been a couple weeks and I’m still emotionally hurting over her. Haven’t been able to eat or sleep. Having nightmares and visions of her in bed with other men. I’ve dated and had sex with other women since. But I still can’t get her out of my head. What should I do?