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28F, I’m leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like a runway model & guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches have never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person?

28F, I can confidently say I have never been approached by a guy I’d want to date. I’m told I’m cute and attractive but guys never approach me, on the rare occasions they do it’s not the guys you’d want. Most women seem to get bfs easily, I use the dating apps and lack of matches are never the problem it just doesn’t work out. Over the years of using them on and off, I’ve become more and more disinterested. Before I get the “why don’t you approach men yourself” speech, I’ve tried bumble and didn’t change my luck. I met one guy but he annoyed me a lot, I feel like im unlucky in love. I already consider myself 30 & I told myself if it didn’t happen by 26 it’s not meant to be. Yes I’m very quiet and not the friendliest but that’s not a dealbreaker, look at all those high maintenance women that are taken. Any women around my age relate?

28F, I have had no luck on dating apps for the years I’ve been on and off them. I dated someone briefly for a few months back when I was 23, it just wasn’t a good experience. Since then I refuse to settle for anyone again, I think I am genuinely unlucky. I was bullied as a kid up to HS, some of my family wasn’t any better. I struggled with my weight & when I was 23 I lost a good amount of it, I’m the same weight now for the most part. I didn’t get any more attention, weight loss results in a lot of attention for people. You’d think as a woman it’s easier & I think it is for most but not me. Funny thing is I’m told I’m cute/attractive by people (not only by family) but guys never approach me in person. I’m not a friendly person which is why I use the apps, I get matches but in the end it doesn’t work out for all the reasons you can think of. I told myself at 26 if I’m in the same position we have a problem, 2 years later & I think it’s time to throw the towel. I think for a while I’ve become more & more disinterested in using them too, maybe I go through phases? Most people are taken, married & have kids at my age, it’s not meant to be if it hasn’t happened for me yet in my opinion.

28F, I’m leaning towards bad luck. I’m very introverted & not the friendliest but I don’t think I’m intimidating. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, it’s not like a runway model & guys just never approach me. I’m told guys look at me but they never do anything about it & I’m too shy. I know there’s nothing wrong with me, most women seem to get guys so easily. That’s why I’ve been on and off the apps since I was maybe 18, getting matches have never been a prob. Convo always fades, ghosting, lack of interest (goes both ways) & some guys who are crazy. I’ve tried a lot of them, usually I stick with Hinge. It’s always a pattern of the guys I want who don’t want me back & the ones that want me I don’t like back. For maybe the past year I’ve become less and less interested, I reply to matches/msgs every couple of days? A few people have said maybe I’m asexual (haven’t had sex or masturbated in years), assume I’m gay or I’m unsure of what I want. Maybe they’re all wrong & simply I haven’t found the right person?