So my guy friend and I have been lowkey talking ever since high school. I say lowkey because it’s only ever been light conversations and “pictures” due to complications in our friend group. We both go to college together too and see each other almost every weekend (not romantically, just with our friends).
Sometimes during the day after class, we will go eat lunch together. Even when our group is eating lunch, we will typically sit next to each other at the table.
We recently matched on Tinder and I thought it was interesting but brushed it off. Typically, in a group setting, he doesn’t really acknowledge me much. He will still say hi to me and doesn’t act uncomfortable or anything. He just doesn’t approach me much when we are with our friends. He is very loud and outgoing with our friend group and makes everybody laugh including me. He seems to be “touchy” with everyone else except me (unless if I ask for a hug).
One time I forgot my wallet and he offered to get something for me, which I thought was sweet.
We’ve lightly talked about hooking up but it never ends up happening. He asked why I hadn’t made a move and I told him that he didn’t seem like he wanted me to. Once he told me he was down for me to spend the night, I told him that I’m a virgin but would be down to do other stuff, which I thought would scare him off, but he was nice and said if I ever wanted to, he would go easy and take it slow.
I can't tell if he’s just shy when it comes to his feelings, or if he’s not interested at all. I’m fine if he’s not, because I really value our friendship, but if he’s interested, I would be okay with it. I’ve just been receiving a lot of mixed signals lately😂
Sometimes during the day after class, we will go eat lunch together. Even when our group is eating lunch, we will typically sit next to each other at the table.
We recently matched on Tinder and I thought it was interesting but brushed it off. Typically, in a group setting, he doesn’t really acknowledge me much. He will still say hi to me and doesn’t act uncomfortable or anything. He just doesn’t approach me much when we are with our friends. He is very loud and outgoing with our friend group and makes everybody laugh including me. He seems to be “touchy” with everyone else except me (unless if I ask for a hug).
One time I forgot my wallet and he offered to get something for me, which I thought was sweet.
We’ve lightly talked about hooking up but it never ends up happening. He asked why I hadn’t made a move and I told him that he didn’t seem like he wanted me to. Once he told me he was down for me to spend the night, I told him that I’m a virgin but would be down to do other stuff, which I thought would scare him off, but he was nice and said if I ever wanted to, he would go easy and take it slow.
I can't tell if he’s just shy when it comes to his feelings, or if he’s not interested at all. I’m fine if he’s not, because I really value our friendship, but if he’s interested, I would be okay with it. I’ve just been receiving a lot of mixed signals lately😂
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You are getting mixed signals because you are giving them too.
Ahhh okay, how am I giving off mixed signals? I’m genuinely asking cause I ha no idea😂 And how can I make the first move without seeming like I’m coming on too strong?
From the info you gave he doesn't seem to think you are really intereted. That is his perception for whatever reason, and that could be what is holding things up. Guys need to be shown (or better yet told) that you are interested. Too many girls are stuck in this mindset that all they have to do is show up and it's not enough for most guys.