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There's a girl in my college i found attractive i like her and after talking for 3 months and becoming good friends i confessed to her but she denied saying she just wanted us to be friend after that i tried to cut off my contact but she didn't stopped calling or texting and insisted to be friends so i stayed her friend as she didn't had any other friend i stayed her friend and after some time she got into a relationship with a quiet guy in our class and earlier after my rejection i asked her is it because she have crush on some other guy but she denied but after getting into relationship with him she told me that she had crush on him even before we become friend and now i feel so bad as she made a new female friend too who support her and her new boyfriend. i feel like i am of no use of her now. now she's not being so friendly like she used to be earlier and when i ask her if she wants to end our friendship she don't let me end things and blamed i always fight with her and play the victim card. we had a fight few days ago so the next day I ignored her whole day but after class when i was going back with her she started to cry and run away i tried to calm her but she said she didn't want to talk and her boyfriend calmed her and later when i called her to check on her she said so many rude things to me i felt bad. and told me she felt bad cuz i said i feel like she was ignoring me and not replying to my texts. so we are in fight and not talking so for last few days she been calling me daily but i am not picking her calls and not replying to her texts. Should I end things with her? or Stay her friend? I still have feelings for her.

Who becomes the saddest by rejection of a love interest? And who takes it the most disappointingly when it happens?

Attractive men and tall men probably aren't used to rejection very often, but have plenty of other options out there to quickly rebound and recover.

Unattractive men and short men (like me) get rejected more than anyone else, but also are probably the ones most likely to become used to it.

Women rarely ever make the first move or do the chasing, but because of this, aren't used to rejection or handle it as gracefully or tactfully as men do.

So who becomes the saddest/most depressed the most often when rejected?

I knew her for 5 months. We never had a fight. At the end I sent her a message about sexual experiences, she wasn't interested much in responding. Left my last message on 'read'. 3 weeks later (no contact) she deleted me from the friends list. I subconciously knew that it could happen and when the day came, I texted her, she said that our goals were too different and she doesn't see a point in continuing.

Yes, I fell in love with her. We shared a lot of messages, many conversations with a sexual overtone. Met only 3 times. It was me chasing her, she turned down A LOT of propositions. My heart hurt with every rejection, also with a final one. Physical touch was hard with her. She said that she just is that way, but she also had some other guys around.

Everything would be fine, if I felt some attraction from her. But that was not the way it was. It was a crooked game I was playing, not sure if I really ever had a shot. Or did I have one and just missed.

3 weeks passed since the last contact. I can't stop thinking about her. Her birthday is coming up (of course I remember, I remember everything about her), and I keep overthinking of what should I do:
A) Send her a nice, very personalised and heart-warming wishes. Like many times I was the 'nice guy' with her. But that didn't lead me very far didn't it? Other than statements like 'Its really nice by you to say that'. Well in my heart I am that guy. And I really would love to do that and be somehow appreciated. But I also know the game.

B) Just a simple text 'enjoy your birthday, by the way. its a funny thing that comes up on your profile, when someone is not a part of your friend circle' Which is true! And I bet she has no idea. This is the approach with 'playing' and a bit of teasing.

C) No contact. But showing her that I finally moved on. That I have my value. But she probably doesn't remember me already and I bet she won't contact me ever again on her own. Most boring solution.

D) Other - comment please.

I knew her for 5 months. We never had a fight. At the end I sent her a message about sexual experiences, she wasn't interested much in responding. Left my last message on 'read'. 3 weeks later (no contact) she deleted me from the friends list. I subconciously knew that it could happen and when the day came, I texted her, she said that our goals were too different and she doesn't see a point in continuing.

Yes, I fell in love with her. We shared a lot of messages, many conversations with a sexual overtone. Met only 3 times. It was me chasing her, she turned down A LOT of propositions. My heart hurt with every rejection, also with a final one. Physical touch was hard with her. She said that she just is that way, but she also had some other guys around.

Everything would be fine, if I felt some attraction from her. But that was not the way it was. It was a crooked game I was playing, not sure if I really ever had a shot. Or did I have one and just missed.

3 weeks passed since the last contact. I can't stop thinking about her. Her birthday is coming up (of course I remember, I remember everything about her), and I keep overthinking of what should I do:
A) Send her a nice, very personalised and heart-warming wishes. Like many times I was the 'nice guy' with her. But that didn't lead me very far didn't it? Other than statements like 'Its really nice by you to say that'. Well in my heart I am that guy. And I really would love to do that and be somehow appreciated. But I also know the game.

B) Just a simple text 'enjoy your birthday, by the way. its a funny thing that comes up on your profile, when someone is not a part of your friend circle' Which is true! And I bet she has no idea. This is the approach with 'playing' and a bit of teasing.

C) No contact. But showing her that I finally moved on. That I have my value. But she probably doesn't remember me already and I bet she won't contact me ever again on her own. Most boring solution. No fun.

D) Other - comment please.