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I need advice from you to help me decide who is the right man for me. I grew up innocent without any knowledge and much experience with men because my parents are strict. I just got out of my parents' hands this year, now that I am 27. I met two guys in my life.

I know Daniel, a year ago, on a dating site. At first, he was very persistent towards me. I didn't like him at first because he is too old for me but he was serious by calling me every day, being there when I was depressed, and, giving food and gifts as a surprise. However, after 7 months, I'd noticed on his Facebook, that I was not the only foreign girl he added, and gave a flower to another girl who he met online with a letter saying "Smile, it is another day." I got mad and the girl stayed away from Daniel. After that event, he doesn't care about me anymore, no calls, no gifts. He always punishes me by not talking to me for one to three months. He even accused me of wanting him for money or a visa even if it was not even true.

Due to my anger that Daniel didn't talk to me for 2 months. I went back to the dating site and I met Kostas. He is very interested in me and even wants to meet me even just after 3 weeks. He flew to visit me because I rebelled against Daniel's abandonment. I did sleep with him. Kostas was really kind to me online, but when I met him, I realized he cannot really treat me right. He got fed off of my problems and, worse, he left me at the mall alone and threw my stuff because I didn't want to follow what he wants. But after a day, he apologised to me. If we ever have a disagreement or fight, he is willing to communicate through it. Unlike Daniel, he had to punish me first by not talking for one to two months. Or worse, more months.

Please advise me, who should I choose and marry? Or what should I do?

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It always starts as a verbal argument or insults are hurled and suddenly Person A makes the first contact. By logic Person B will tend to reply back too.

That very first contact can include either a slap, a punch, a shove, spitting in their face, getting into the person's face and poking your finger at them, etc. I'll give you a brief example:

Person B: Well I'm not stupid nor a c*** like your mother.

Person A: Say what did you just say

Person B: Is backing away but repeats it louder and clear

Person A: Shoves and hits first

Person B: Feels in the right to hit back and does it. Fight continues on and on.

Some people may think Person B deserved that hit but Person B still felt in the right to return it back too and can say ''Well I didn't hit first, Person A did''.

Regardless of how verbally antagonistic they might have been, isn't the person that makes the first physical contact always at fault?

So I met my best friend a little over a year and a half ago. We both work at the same place and hang out outside of work and go to the same college (we were basically roommates). I was originally “in love” with another guy whenever we started hanging out, and he helped show me that he was toxic for me. After that, I was able to get over that guy and focus on myself. Doing that, I realized that I actually had feelings for my best friend. I thought it was nothing at first, but throughout our friendship, those feelings have grown a lot stronger.
We both love Star Wars and Marvel. He makes sure I know that I am invited to different events that he is going to and tries to include me in everything. We go on late night drives (just the two of us) and listen to music or talk if either of us are upset or overwhelmed. People always know that he rides shotgun in my car because he designated himself as my co-pilot. I have had a few people ask me if we were dating because of how we act with each other.
The reason I haven’t told him yet is because he has a girlfriend. This hasn’t been a long-term girlfriend, but it’s been going well for them so far. He’s fallen for both of my best friends in the past and I’ve always been there to give him advice about any of the girls he was thinking about dating. Currently, his girlfriend and him are doing well (other than one night that they got in a fight and he ended up crying and talking to me about it).
I’ve had the overwhelming urge to tell him lately because my feelings are growing so strong and it hurts me a lot of the time. He’s also been teasing me a lot lately (jokingly) and is always cracking inside jokes with me which hasn’t helped. His girlfriend is so great and I love her. I’m just scared that I’m gonna go insane if I don’t tell him. I also don’t want to lose him as a friend because I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. People keep telling me to let it run it’s course and I’ll get over it, but I haven’t.

What should I do?