My best friend and I got into a fight. We have been friends for 15+ years, have called each other sister and our chosen family. We used to talk about anything and everything, shared all our secrets. The last two years have been rough for the other of us, individually. We had no one else to go to so we leaned on each other. This past year she started dating a new guy, and after three months of fantasying about it she took the risk and hung out with him. She hooked up the first night, and felt ashamed or that she would be judged. So she chose not to tell my about it for months. During those months I always supported and pushed her towards being him or trying to get to know him, I at this point still had non idea they even spoke to one another. One day she told me about conversations she overhead and telling me random little details, like his zodiac. He's a cancer. Because of covid and her dad getting sick ( terminal lung cancer ) she moved back home and asked me to live with her. It was just her mom, dad, herself and I living in the house. He died last year, it hit her really heard and she hasn't been herself and started isolating even more. So when she started seeing this guy I think he brought a light back into her life. Over time however she found out about his past. Information she struggled with learning, when she was younger her mom suffered from depression and turned to alcohol to cope. In her memory she portrayed her mom as a heavy alcoholic who severely traumatized her. So this shaped her into someone who valued sobriety, held judgment for those who drank more socially than the rest, and was disgusted by drunk drivers. Her siblings also used alcohol to cope with their own lives, whatever those reasons may be some lead to DUis. Those were her personal beliefs, her father shared them.
Bestfriends fighting... is the friendship over?
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continued... He practiced sobriety for the majority of her life due to her moms alcoholism, and always had a very firm opinion on drinking. One of her older brothers, was a severe alcoholic who tormented her and she just wanted to be left alone. He never really left her alone, would call her drunk - yell at her. He would say mean things, blame for things that she wasn't apart of or had control over. I always felt my heart break when people treated her wrongly and it made me protective over her.
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