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I saw this video and it was about in a rural village how people have expectations of you but in a city you can be anonymous and do whatever you like as long as you're not comitting crimes or being too annoying like waking your neighbors at night.

Do you think this is why a lot of people struggle with socialising and connection today? Because they're not willing to integrate themselves into a situation where other people have a say on what they think is right and wrong for them to do.

I was born in the city but lived in the countryside for 3 years. It was definitely an interesting experience. I think most of the people were nice but it was also difficult because they knew each other since birth and I was a new person and also I don't know I think I wasn't really ready for the ammount of social work it would take to fully integrate myself there.

I actually felt happy and like I was back home when I came back to Zürich. Even though I met new people and made new friends there's just a familiarity with how things are done here and I don't feel like I'm out of place or so.

I am putting more and more focus on socializing and I think it's going well but I still found it interesting this concept because I definitely feel like city people put a lot of importance on freedom and not being tied down and that comes into conflict with building a tight community.

I think I will keep changing my priorities over time but I also enjoy the city. There's a lot of nice things about it. We'll see how it goes :)

I went through this about 10 years ago. My then 25 year old girlfriend made more than me when I was 32. But at the time I was pursuing a dream (I was a professional athlete) and I my time was consumed with training. I was no dead beat but I just had a different focus at the time.

I was doing freelance work just to pay the bills and I was struggling. She even offered me money at one time (which extremely kind of her) but it I turned it down out of pride and went further in debt.

Anyway the insecurity was on my side when it can to this (also contributed to our break up). She didn’t care but I did. It had a lot to with being raised to “be a man” when it came to being a breadwinner.

Nowadays I make a lot more money given I’m retired from my sport and have full focus on my career. But I am also a lot more “boring” now since I’m no longer the free wheeling adventurer I once was.

But money is a touchy issue. Form a evolutionary perspective I really do believe most women still subconsciously expect a man to provide for them even it’s unnecessary or impractical. They might get into short term flings with guys who offer other benefits (looks, excitement, adventurer, personality, etc) but when it comes to long term commitments they have a much higher bar on this

I also believe when a woman makes more money then her boyfriend/husband she’s more prone to cheating. Especially if she is comparable to him when it comes to looks (maybe she will stay loyal if she’s physically unattractive compared to him)

In fact I believe it’s unfairly more socially “acceptable” for a woman to do this given the guy is considered a “chump” if he is financial dependent on her. More more acceptable then vice versa.

I have a divorced uncle who worked a low paying his entire life and was supported by his (comparably) rich wife. She was no multi millionaire but she earned a lot more than him.

She ended up cheating on him the entire marriage. He tolerated it because they had kids and he needed support.