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How to heal from a breakup

How to heal from a breakup

Time is the answer. I didn't get it when it first happened. People would tell me it's just going to take time but I didn't realize that it's so true.

I've been suffering for five months. Crying my ass off and wondering why he didn't want me anymore. I tried my hardest to move on but I couldn't because I still loved him. I would call and text him and suggest us getting back together. It was horrendous, my behavior. Even when he found someone else he wanted to be with, I still couldn't let him go and move on.

People would say just block him but I couldn't because I felt like we could still be friends. Wrong.

I slept with him in November and again in early December but the last time we slept together felt different. He wore the girl he's been pining over's necklace while we were messing around and it nearly broke me. The level of disrespect should have made me finally come to my senses but I just couldn't stop seeing myself without him in my life.

I started getting on dating apps back in October but no one seemed to match what I was looking for. I had two potential dates that went nowhere because all they wanted was sex. So I gave up for a while.

Then New Year's Eve hits and I get an epiphany. That I don't need him to fulfill me. He is a dime a dozen. I can find love again and I'm not going into 2025 still pining over someone who no longer even sees me as even an afterthought.

So I get on the dating app again and begin to swipe for a match not with the intent of actually finding one but just for fun. I felt like I was finally done with my ex and then after several left swipes, I find this intriguing guy's profile and it was like I hit the lotto. It wasn't just his looks that drew me to him but what he spoke about. He was deep. A writer like me and into anime. I swiped right on him and we ended up matching.

The conversation seemed to just flow. And he made me forget about my ex completely. He gave me hope and that even if he's not the one and it doesn't go anywhere that there are plenty of fish in the sea that will fit what I'm looking for. But my hope is that it does indeed go somewhere.

My ex is now a closed chapter that I won't be revisiting ever again. I can't believe I'm saying this and writing this now. I never thought I would be over him but I am so over him.

So in conclusion, just give it time if you're going through a rough breakup and don't immediately expect to hit it off with someone. Give yourself time to heal and when you're truly ready, find your person or at least someone who will make you forget about them. Or stay single if that makes you happy. Ultimately find what will make you happy. For me, that was finding someone new.

How to heal from a breakup
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